Job’s Elegy: From the Womb to the Tomb, and Beyond? with Daniel Whyte III

June 25, 2026 Blackc_Admin

The Short, Sorrowful Life of Man and the Promise of Eternity

Job 14:

1 Man that is born of a woman is of few days, and full of trouble.

2 He cometh forth like a flower, and is cut down: he fleeth also as a shadow, and continueth not.

3 And dost thou open thine eyes upon such an one, and bringest me into judgment with thee?

4 Who can bring a clean thing out of an unclean? not one.

5 Seeing his days are determined, the number of his months are with thee, thou hast appointed his bounds that he cannot pass;

6 Turn from him, that he may rest, till he shall accomplish, as an hireling, his day.

7 For there is hope of a tree, if it be cut down, that it will sprout again, and that the tender branch thereof will not cease.

8 Though the root wax old in the earth, and the stock die in the ground;

9 Yet through the scent of water it will bud, and bring forth boughs like a plant.

10 But man dieth, and wasteth away: yea, man giveth up the ghost, and where is he?

11 As the waters fail from the sea, and the flood decayeth and drieth up;

12 So man lieth down, and riseth not: till the heavens be no more, they shall not awake, nor be raised out of their sleep.

13 O that thou wouldest hide me in the grave, that thou wouldest keep me secret, until thy wrath be past, that thou wouldest appoint me a set time, and remember me!

14 If a man die, shall he live again? all the days of my appointed time will I wait, till my change come.

15 Thou shalt call, and I will answer thee: thou wilt have a desire to the work of thine hands.

16 For now thou numberest my steps: dost thou not watch over my sin?

17 My transgression is sealed up in a bag, and thou sewest up mine iniquity.

18 And surely the mountain falling cometh to nought, and the rock is removed out of his place.

19 The waters wear the stones: thou washest away the things which grow out of the dust of the earth; and thou destroyest the hope of man.

20 Thou prevailest for ever against him, and he passeth: thou changest his countenance, and sendest him away.

21 His sons come to honour, and he knoweth it not; and they are brought low, but he perceiveth it not of them.

22 But his flesh upon him shall have pain, and his soul within him shall mourn.

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Raw Transcript

I am so thrilled to be here with you today. My beloved, please turn in your Bibles as we begin a new chapter in Job—not only a fascinating book, but a powerful book. I mean Job chapter 14. (Pardon me—I just heard from my birthday girl, my daughter Danae, and I shared a remembrance of when she was little and wanted to go to Marble Slab Creamery, which was a big deal to her at the time. So on her birthday, I took her there.) We give God the glory, praise, and honor, as I prayed last night in the Gospel Light House of Prayer International Nightcap Service. If you want to join us in that service, feel free to do so—especially for those of you who have trouble praying at night before bed; this may be the perfect service for you.

We have titled Job chapter 14, one of my favorite chapters in Job: Job’s Elegy: From the Womb to the Tomb, and Beyond?

For those who do not know the definition of elegy, according to Webster’s Dictionary, an elegy is a serious, melancholic poem, song, or even a book written to mourn the loss of someone who has died, an era that has passed, a period that has ended, or a part of history that is no more. Broadly speaking, it is a reflective expression of grief, disappointment, and sorrow that can also lament the passing of time—a “once upon a time” kind of thing, a way of life, a lost concept, or lost principles (which America, and the world, have lost as well).

Core characteristics of this word include:

Theme of loss: It primarily deals with death, absence, or tragic change.
Three stages of grief: Traditional elegies move through a clear emotional progression—lamenting the loss, admiring the deceased, and finally finding consolation or acceptance.
Tone: It is somber, reflective, and typically formal or ceremonial in style.

Famous examples of elegy include O Captain! My Captain! by Walt Whitman—a famous elegy mourning the assassination of Abraham Lincoln—and Elegy Written in a Country Churchyard by Thomas Gray, a classic reflection on the lives of common people and the universal nature of mortality.

Elegy versus Eulogy: While both deal with mourning the dead, they differ in format and execution. An elegy is a written, artistic poem, musical piece, or book (in fact, the Vice President wrote a book using that word). A eulogy is a spoken speech delivered at a funeral that generally focuses on praising the achievements and character of the deceased—and I would add, something that nearly means nothing today.

Another title we tossed around: Man that is born of woman is of few days and full of trouble. If you have heard me preach over the past almost half a century, you have heard me quote that verse many times.

Other titles we considered: If a man die, shall he live again?—the great question of the grave; The Short, Sorrowful Life of Man and the Hope Hidden in the Ashes; When a Tree Has More Hope Than a Man; and finally, The Appointment of Death and the Longing for Resurrection.

Ladies and gentlemen, brothers and sisters in Christ Jesus—family, friends, and foes (and yes, even foes in the family, foes in the church, foes in the world, and now even foes in the AI world)—I present to you Job chapter 14.

By way of introduction, and through the Gospel Light Society International University, we are now in the course called Old Testament Survey. We have finished the New Testament Survey, plus devotional reading (and this includes devotional reading as well).

(Pardon me, ladies and gentlemen—that was an alarm that went off at the wrong time!)

Now back to Job 14. By way of introduction, Job 14 is one of the most profound and moving meditations on human mortality and the hope of life beyond death in all of Holy Scripture. After the fierce declarations of faith in chapter 13—”Though He slay me, yet will I trust Him”—Job now sinks into a deeper, quieter melancholy and a more universal reflection on the brevity and bitterness of human life. He compares man to a flower that withers and a shadow that flees. Yet, in the midst of this lament, a remarkable glimmer of hope appears. Job asks whether a dead man might live again, and he longs for a hidden waiting period until his change comes. This chapter has been called the funeral dirge of humanity, but it also contains the seeds of resurrection hope that would bloom fully in Jesus Christ in the New Testament.

In this chapter, we will read the entire chapter today, and then we will come back and—as some preachers call it—unpack it.

Shall we pray:

Holy Father God, I pray in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. I praise You and thank You for the previous service earlier today. I praise You and thank You for the other projects we have worked on and completed, and those we are still working on, for Your glory, Your praise, and Your honor. I thank You, Lord, that I am motivated by Your Holy Spirit to continue to preach Your holy gospel, to give myself continually to prayer and to the ministry of Your holy word.

Holy Father God, I do pray that You will have mercy and grace upon me, all of my children, and all people who know You as Savior—who are born again and saved. Where we have sinned in word, thought, or deed, for Jesus Christ’s sake, please forgive us, Lord, of our sins, faults, and failures. Wash and cleanse our souls, hearts, minds, spirits, and consciences in the holy and precious blood of Christ. Crush and crucify, Lord, our flesh and the old man within us. Fill us afresh and anew with the fullness, the unction, and the power of Your Holy Spirit. Cleanse us and make us whiter than snow on the inside through the precious blood of Christ, and fit us for Your use.

Holy Father God, I do pray in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ that You will save those who are lost and revive those who are saved. Lord, I know that according to Your Word, we are living in perilous times and in the last days. Help us to understand that, help us to accept that, and help us—those of us who are born again—to continue to thrive, to present the gospel, to proclaim the whole counsel of God just like in the olden days, and to live according to Your Word.

Holy Father God, I do pray for the true and pure salvation of Mrs. Marika White, my wife of over 38 years, who is here. I thank You and praise You that You and only You have kept us married all of these years. And I thank You for seven of the greatest children I believe in the history of the church. That is worth it all to me. I give You the glory, praise, and honor for all of my children who have helped me in the ministry—particularly at the start of the digital age. Now, for many years, I can go live around the world and present and preach the gospel and the whole counsel of God.

So Lord, by the power of Your Holy Spirit, take the words from Your Bible and the words I preach from Your Bible, and transform the lives of many people. Help them to hear the gospel, to understand it, and to apply it to their lives. In Jesus Christ’s name I pray, and for His sake. Amen.

JOB CHAPTER 14 (KJV)

Man that is born of a woman is of few days, and full of trouble.

As I share with you, ladies and gentlemen—if you have listened to me preach over the past 46 years—there is no doubt you have heard me quote this verse, because this is the reality of life. This is the truth. The real truth, and nothing but the truth. Man that is born of a woman—that includes women, by the way—is of few days and full of trouble.

He cometh forth like a flower, and is cut down: he fleeth also as a shadow, and continueth not.

Remember now, we have titled this chapter Job’s Elegy: From the Womb to the Tomb and Beyond.

And dost thou open thine eyes upon such an one, and bringest me into judgment with thee? Who can bring a clean thing out of an unclean? not one. Seeing his days are determined, the number of his months are with thee, thou hast appointed his bounds that he cannot pass; turn from him, that he may rest, till he shall accomplish, as an hireling, his day.

For there is hope of a tree, if it be cut down, that it will sprout again, and that the tender branch thereof will not cease. Though the root wax old in the earth, and the stock die in the ground; yet through the scent of water it will bud, and bring forth boughs like a plant.

My, my, my!

But man dieth, and wasteth away: yea, man giveth up the ghost, and where is he? As the waters fail from the sea, and the flood decayeth and drieth up: so man lieth down, and riseth not: till the heavens be no more, they shall not awake, nor be raised out of their sleep.

O that thou wouldest hide me in the grave, that thou wouldest keep me secret, until thy wrath be past, that thou wouldest appoint me a set time, and remember me! If a man die, shall he live again? all the days of my appointed time will I wait, till my change come. Thou shalt call, and I will answer thee: thou wilt have a desire to the work of thine hands. For now thou numberest my steps: dost thou not watch over my sin? My transgression is sealed up in a bag, and thou sewest up mine iniquity.

And surely the mountain falling cometh to nought, and the rock is removed out of his place. The waters wear the stones: thou washest away the things which grow out of the dust of the earth; and thou destroyest the hope of man. Thou prevailest for ever against him, and he passeth: thou changest his countenance, and sendest him away. His sons come to honour, and he knoweth it not; and they are brought low, but he perceiveth it not of them. But his flesh upon him shall have pain, and his soul within him shall mourn.

Ladies and gentlemen, if the Lord is coming and we live, we will pick up the Gospel Light Society International University portion starting tomorrow—the Old Testament Survey, Job chapter 14—where we will expand the teaching from this chapter by the grace of God.

Shall we pray:

Holy Father God in heaven, I pray in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. Help us, as born-again, saved Christians, to subject ourselves to Your holy Word, and help everybody else to subject themselves to Your holy gospel. Lord, save everybody’s soul from the burning hell and the power of sin in every family. Lord, we pray for every person. By the power of Your Holy Spirit, visit us, revive the Christians, restore the Christians, and save the lost. In Jesus Christ’s name I pray, and for His sake. Amen.

Now, dear friend of mine, allow me to share with you the bad news—and then I will give you the good news.

THE BAD NEWS (Three Points):

Bad News Number One: You are a wicked and evil sinner—and so am I. In fact, I am the chief of sinners. The Pope is a sinner, too. The Dalai Lama is a big sinner. And so is Joel Osteen and his wife, Victoria. We all have sinned, the Bible says, and come short of the glory of God. We are all guilty before God, and we are all on death row—whether we like it or not. Why? Because we have broken God’s commandments. We have sinned against God, and God is not pleased with that—primarily because He loves us so much. He gave us the commandments for our own good, not for His good. He is offended because you will not even respect Him enough to obey His commandments, which He made to make your life better—not worse. God did not give you the commandments to curtail your fun; He gave them to you so that you could have more fun in this life.

Bad News Number Two: You are going to die because you have violated God’s commandments—God’s Ten Commandments. You say, “Well, preacher, I don’t understand all of that, and I don’t agree with you.” That’s fine. What you need to understand is that you need to obey the Bible and obey God’s commandments for your own good. It really does not matter whether you understand the details of what God has done. God has done it, and that settles it. You have no say in the matter. Whether you believe what I am saying is between you and God. You are going to die, whether you like it or not, because of all your sins. It makes no difference how rich you are, how important you think you are, or how much education—or “edumacation”—you have. Somebody said—an old Black lady said one time—”Education without salvation is damnation.” I still believe that. There are many educated people in hell and many rich people in hell. Thousands upon thousands of rich people are in hell—they trusted in their money. Thousands of educated, high-IQ people are in hell. And you will go to hell, too, wherever you are on the scale, if you do not believe in the Lord Jesus Christ.

Bad News Number Three: If you reject Jesus Christ and do not believe in Him, trust in Him, and pray and ask Him to save you, you will bust hell wide open. It makes no difference who you are or who you think you are. Sure as I am Black and my last name is White, you will go to hell if you reject Jesus Christ. Because I assure you, God Almighty is not going to come off of His throne, suffer, bleed, be humiliated, and die for your wicked sins—He who never had any sins—be buried and rise on the third day, for nothing. He did that because He loves you and wants you saved from the destruction that is coming, the hell that is coming, the lake of fire that is coming, and the Great White Throne Judgment that is coming. He said all liars shall have their part in the lake of fire. All whoremongers and all whores will have their part in the lake of fire. All people who watch pornography and love pornography and lie and say they are addicted to it WILL BURN IN THE LAKE OF FIRE (the root word for “porn” is there in that same passage). The fearful—too afraid to get saved because they worry about what their family members and friends might say—many people have gone to hell fearing family members and friends and buddies. They would rather fit in with wicked, evil sinners and do the jam-jam-boogie lifestyle instead of believing in Jesus Christ and going to heaven to be with God.

THE GOOD NEWS:

Dear friends, here is the good news, as I promised you. Jesus Christ is the One who gave the good news first and best, and who said the most important words in the history of the world when He said: “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

Dear friend, believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you shall be saved. Pray and ask Him to save you, because the Bible says, “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”

I have been preaching this message ever since I heard this message. What I told you today is what I have been preaching for 46 years. My desire—my heart’s desire, born by the Holy Spirit of God in a person who never wanted to be a preacher (in fact, the last thing on earth I wanted to be was a preacher—that is a fact, everybody in my family knows it, all of my girlfriends know it, all of my buddies know it)—they know something happened to that boy. Jesus happened to me. On December 19, 1979, a young man showed me from the Bible how to get saved from hell, and I had never heard that before even though I was raised in church with a preacher as a father and a mother who claims to be a preacher as well. I almost died and went to hell, and many of you are in danger of going to hell.

So follow me in the sinner’s prayer. Repeat after me phrase by phrase, and mean it from your heart. Do not play with God. If you do not mean it, you can leave right now—do not even try to pray it. But if you are sincere, even if it is just one person, pray it.

THE SINNER’S PRAYER:

Holy Father God, have mercy and grace upon my soul. Please forgive me of all of my wicked and evil sins and ways, for Jesus Christ’s sake. I now believe in You, Lord Jesus Christ. I believe that You suffered, bled, and died on the cross for my sins, was buried, and rose on the third day. Lord Jesus Christ, please come into my heart and into my spirit and save my soul from the burning hell and from my wicked sins. Help me to truly repent and truly change, and follow You in the newness of life. In Jesus Christ’s name I pray. For His sake. Amen.

Now, dear friend of mine, God and Jesus Christ His Son have a few things that they want you to know right from the outset so that you can become a strong disciple of the Lord Jesus Christ and not fail—that is, fail permanently and get out of the race.

Five Things to Do After You Are Saved:

Get Baptized. God and Jesus Christ want you to get baptized in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost. Find a Bible-believing church in your area. Tell them you got saved and have been instructed by the preacher to go and get baptized in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost.
Start Praying. Ask God for help to be the Christian that He wants you to be, and God will help you. Jesus Christ said, “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.”
Read the Bible Every Day. Feed on the Bible. Do not feed on junk anymore. Read the Bible. Listen to the Bible. Start reading in the New Testament at the Gospel of John and read through the entire New Testament, and then read through the entire Old Testament. That is what we are doing right now. We are here to help you. Over the past two years, we have read through the New Testament twice and about fourteen chapters of the Old Testament. But we are backing up and starting all over again because of the university curriculum, which we will start tomorrow in this chapter. We do it chapter by chapter, verse by verse. We are glad to help you read the Bible. It will probably be one of the most difficult things—along with prayer and witnessing—that you do in your life. But we are here to help. Follow us, pray for us, like us, and all those good things.
Obey the Commandments. Remember that Jesus Christ said, “If ye love me, keep my commandments.” Obey the commandments of the Lord from the Word. For the Bible says, do not be just hearers of the word—or in this case, readers of the word—but doers of the word. Therein lies the blessing, by the way.
Be a Witness. Jesus Christ gave the commandment that we, as Christians, ought to “go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel.”

God bless you, dear friends. Until next time, pray for me as I pray for you. Remember the motto of the Marine Corps: Semper Fidelis—always faithful to the Lord in this case. And remember the motto of the Air Force and the Space Force: Semper Supra—always above. Keep your heart and mind stayed on the Lord above, and He will keep you in perfect peace.

God bless you, dear friends. God loves you. Jesus Christ loves you. And I love you in the Lord because of the love of God shed abroad in my heart. May God bless you and may God keep you is my prayer. My beloved, we will see you next time.

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Daniel Whyte III has been preaching the Gospel for over 46 years. He is the founder and President of the over 42-year-old Gospel Light Evangelistic Society International, Pastor of the over 38-year-old Gospel Light House of Prayer International, and Founder, President, and Editor-in-Chief of the over 22-year-old Black Christian News One (BCNN1.com)—reaching millions with the Gospel of Jesus Christ, discipleship preaching, and the whole counsel of God around the world by any means necessary — “Crying in the Wilderness” and “Exiled on the Isle of Patmos

Daniel Whyte III was honored by being named one of the 17 most notable alumni in the history of the 134-year-old Texas Wesleyan University in Fort Worth, Texas, and one of the 69 most notable alumni in the history of the 53-year-old Liberty University in Lynchburg, Virginia.

Daniel Whyte III holds the following degrees from these universities:

Doctor of Ministry (D.Min., in progress) – Liberty University John W. Rawlings School of Divinity, Lynchburg, VA
Master of Theology (Th.M.) – Liberty University John W. Rawlings School of Divinity, Lynchburg, VA
Master of Divinity (M.Div.) – Liberty University John W. Rawlings School of Divinity, Lynchburg, VA
Bachelor of Arts in Religion (B.A.) – Texas Wesleyan University, Fort Worth, Texas
Bachelor of Theological Studies – Bethany Divinity College and Seminary, Dothan, Alabama (Honors: Summa Cum Laude)

Daniel Whyte III was also honored to sit with presidents and world leaders by being invited by the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association to attend the homegoing of Dr. Billy Graham.

He is the Essence national best-selling author of Letters to Young Black Men and the Amazon best-selling author of Letters to Young Black Women (African-American category). He has authored over 100 books.

He is also the founder, president, and editor-in-chief of the 20-year-old BlackChristianNews.com (BCNN1.com), which has impacted every denomination in the evangelical and Christian world and has influenced presidents, the U.S. government, governments around the world, and the public square. BlackChristianNews.com has been named the #1 Black Christian website and blog in the world for four years running by the independent Feedspot and is on the list of the top 60 Christian news sites in the world—red, yellow, black, or white.

He has preached the Gospel and the Word of God in person across America and in over 24 countries to thousands of people. He has preached the Gospel and the Word of God to millions of people around the world with the help of the internet, preaching live and on-demand multiple times a day for over eight years, to this very day. His mottoes are “Crying in the Wilderness,” “Exiled on the Isle of Patmos,” and “Preaching the Gospel by any means necessary,” all for the glory of God and Jesus Christ.

Daniel Whyte III is the president of the over-40-year-old Gospel Light Evangelistic Society International and the over-37-year-old Gospel Light House of Prayer International. He is known worldwide as the prophet who predicted the Coronavirus Plague over 10 years before it hit in recorded preaching and writing. God also led him to guide thousands through the Coronavirus Plague that killed over 20 million people because of the sins in the Judas-Laodicean church.

Daniel Whyte III’s greatest blessing in this life is his “quiver full” of 10 children—Daniella (Danni), Daniel IV, Danita Evangeline, Danae Mary-Louise, Daniqua Grace, Danyel Ezekiel, Danyelle Elizabeth Breedlove, Danielle Tekeela, Duran-Daniel, and the first Daniel IV (deceased and in heaven with the Lord)—along with grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

Daniel Whyte III has been unblissfully but sexually satisfyingly married to his first and only wife, Meriqua Whyte of Christiana, Jamaica, for over 37 years since December 19, 1987. Jesus Christ said: “And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household.” Even though many evangelicals, charismatics, and Protestants try to act as if these words of Jesus Christ are not a reality in our modern Christianity—primarily because of the Satanic-driven prosperity gospel and an overly positive philosophy, which is a lie not based in reality or biblical truth—the words of Jesus Christ are true for every person who preaches the Gospel. The outcomes of the Gospel are a changed life and opposition from family, lukewarm Christians, Laodicean-Judas pastors and churches, the world, and the devil. This is a reality in our present evil world.

While Daniel Whyte III thoroughly enjoys his married life because he did not allow his wife to have her way at any point and was and is solidly and biblically the head of his household throughout the marriage—often quoting Joshua, “As for me and my house, we’re going to serve the Lord” “up in here!”—and because his wife never failed in the very important area of sex, which he got married for in the first place to avoid sinning against God, he has especially enjoyed the privilege and joy of raising his children in the Lord virtually by himself. He served the Lord with them every day of their lives, from the time they were born until they graduated from college, became adults, and moved on.

However, his wife, Meriqua Whyte—motivated by Satan, with a Pharaoh-style pride mixed with the well-known female Jamaican-style pride, stubbornness, rebelliousness, and witchcraft—has been his greatest Judas enemy in the world and has been what Paul spoke of: a “messenger of Satan” and a “thorn in the flesh.” Amazingly, and by the grace of God, that Satanic evil opposition has spurred Daniel Whyte III on to preach the Gospel probably more times than any man on record. God has honored him because he did not “hearken to the voice of his wife.” Whyte tells other Christian men to only hearken to the voice of God and Jesus Christ—not to their wives, as so many thousands of church men have been taught by pastors and other older men throughout the years. Remember, we are in this worldwide, multi-generational mess because Adam hearkened to the voice of his wife and not to the voice of God.

Before they were married, Daniel Whyte III told his wife Meriqua Whyte that they would not do family life as her parents did, because their married life was hellacious and ended in divorce, as did some of her other family members, including the aunt she was living with. He also told his wife they would not do family life as his parents did, because it was also hellacious and out of order since his mother was the head of the household, not his father. But thanks be to God, they never got a divorce. Whyte told his wife before they got married that they were going to do it God’s way, according to Ephesians chapters 5 and 6, or no way at all. And then he asked his wife, “Are you willing to do marriage God’s way according to Ephesians chapters 5 and 6?” And she said yes. Whyte told her before they got married that if she did not live up to her end of the deal, all bets were off.

Because Daniel Whyte III’s wife, Meriqua Whyte, was so proud, unsubmissive, stubborn, and rebellious after they got married, God led him to read Ephesians chapters 5 and 6 every day in their family devotions throughout their marriage. In the first year of their marriage, Daniel Whyte III also gave his wife a list of verses for women from the Word of God for her to read, which she still reads to this day. He also bought her many books to read to help her be the wife God wanted her to be.

Whyte realized early in the marriage that his wife was not a born-again, saved person even though she lied and said she was before they got married. After over 37 years of marriage, she is still not saved, never bearing any fruit of a saved person, to the point of not even wanting to tell her children, “I love you,” and not wanting to hug them when they were little children, even after her husband told her to do so. She also hated the daily family devotions that her husband led and tried to hinder them. She also demonically hated and tried to hinder every Gospel preaching service to this very day.

However, only by the grace of God, they are still married, and despite the devil constantly working through his wife to try to hinder him from preaching the Word of God, he is still preaching the Gospel and the Word of God live and on demand. His ministry reaches over 148,800 people per month with over 21,000 unique views per month, reaching 149 countries, preaching the Gospel and the Word of God in 2 to 3 services a day, 7 days a week. Glory be to God!

Mrs. Meriqua Whyte’s Apology to her Husband and Their 7 Children for not Being a Biblical Wife or Mother

Mrs. Meriqua Whyte, the Wife of Daniel Whyte III, Gave him the Best Father’s Day Gift Ever About 10 Years Ago When She Unexpectedly and Voluntarily Apologized for the First Time to Him and Their 7 Children for Not Being the Wife, Mother, and Christian Example of the Woman She Should Have Been Over the Past 37 Years of Marriage

Here is what Mrs. Meriqua Whyte wrote ten years ago after verbally apologizing to the entire family on Father’s Day, right before church service:

Over thirty years of marriage. Over thirty years of ups and downs. Over thirty years of trying to make our problems a personal thing between my husband and me. Thankfully, he did not allow me to do that and kept telling me it was between God and me—over thirty years of acting on my feelings and not on what the Bible says. Over thirty years of refusing to obey God’s simple command to a wife—to be obedient to your husband in all things. Over thirty years of disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, lying, and dishonesty, all rooted in pride. Over thirty years of simply not choosing to mature as a Christian.

God has been dealing with me for over thirty years now about changing my attitude and behavior as a wife, which has manifested itself in disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, lying, dishonesty, having an ungodly attitude and spirit, and simply not being the wife, mother, or example of a Christian woman that I should have been throughout the years. (By the way, for those of you who may be thinking that my disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, lying, and dishonesty have resulted in adultery, I will say here that I have never committed any adultery or had sex with another man besides my husband, Daniel Whyte III, since I was born.)

God kept telling me I needed to stop my rebellious and stubborn behavior, apologize to my husband and children, and get my heart right with him, my husband, and my children. He sent others my way to tell me how to behave:

My husband, but I didn’t want to hear it from him
Other Christian women speakers
Other preachers
Books and other materials, but I would not take heed

I knew what to do, but I chose not to do it. The devil had me thinking and believing—as he is having a lot of wives and mothers think and believe—that your relationship with your husband and how you respond to him, whether positive or negative, will not affect your relationship with your children or your relationship with God. I say without hesitation that this is one of the devil’s lies, and sad to say, many wives and mothers are falling for this lie.

Another lie of the devil that Christian wives are falling for is that you can still have a strong relationship with God without being submissive to your husband. Lie! Lie! Lie! There is no truth to this. I know because I have experienced this and am still experiencing this as I am going through this breaking process, which is not happening overnight.

Even throughout my years of rebelliousness, stubbornness, and pride, I still kept praying the prayer I used to pray daily before I got married: “Lord, make me be exactly what You want me to be. Lord, break, make, and mold me into what you want me to be.” Well, God took that prayer seriously, and once you accept Him, He will begin the breaking process. It’s up to us how long that breaking process will take. For me, sad to say, it has taken over 30 years, and the breaking is not complete. In what way is God breaking me down right now? Well, our children have grown up. The three oldest have gone through and are still going through college, have gotten their degrees, and some are working on their second, third, and fourth degrees, launching their careers and moving out. God slapped me into reality and truly intensified the breaking process. My husband told me before our first child was born and repeatedly while the children were young that my job was to love our children and make positive memories with them and that if I did that, I would have a wonderful relationship with them as adults in the time to come. Well, I disobeyed God and my husband, who did not let up on his duties. And he has a wonderful relationship with our children, even the girls, and I don’t. However, God led me to finally break the day before Father’s Day, and while I was helping my husband get dressed to preach, I asked him if I could apologize to him and the entire family. That’s the first time I ever did that on my own. Throughout the years, he has always told me that I needed to get my heart right with God, him, and my children; otherwise, I would never have the joy and peace of the Lord in my life. However, I kept on lying and denying that I was the problem.

Here is what I said to my husband and children on Saturday afternoon, June 17, 2017, the day before Father’s Day. My husband told the entire family that this was the best Father’s Day gift I have ever given to him:

“Daddy, children, I apologize for not being the wife, mother, and example of a Christian woman I should have been throughout the years. I have shown nothing but pride, disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, and a bad attitude and spirit toward God and my husband in front of you. My disobedience and rebelliousness have caused much unnecessary unrest and upheaval in the family. As my husband told me, things could have gone much better if I had obeyed God’s word from the beginning. Please accept my apology, and I am asking you to forgive me.”

The diminishing of peace and joy in my life throughout the years I brought on myself. Not having a proper relationship with God, my husband, and my children, I brought on myself—all because I chose the disobedient route. My number one desire is to live a life of peace—peace with God, my husband, and my children. I have learned that peace will not come as long as I live in disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, and pride.

I will end this with two notes: (1) Happy Father’s Day to my husband: you have been a great husband and father. (2) Happy Children’s Day to my children: You all have been great children. I have no complaints whatsoever against my husband and, of course, children; you have never been at fault. My bad behavior is all on me, and I’m sorry I put you through this. May God bless your lives, and I love you.

Ephesians 5:22 – 6:20 (KJV)

Below is the passage in the Bible that Daniel Whyte III read in their family devotions every day for decades. It covers the biblical duties of the husband, the wife, and the children, and includes how to fight against the devil who is seeking to destroy the family.

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

6 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.

2 Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;

3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.

4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

5 Servants, be obedient to them that are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ;

6 Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart;

7 With good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men:

8 Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doeth, the same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free.

9 And, ye masters, do the same things unto them, forbearing threatening: knowing that your Master also is in heaven; neither is there respect of persons with him.

10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.

11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.

12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

14 Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;

15 And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;

16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.

17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:

18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;

19 And for me, that utterance may be given unto me, that I may open my mouth boldly, to make known the mystery of the gospel,

20 For which I am an ambassador in bonds: that therein I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak.

The Gospel in a Nutshell

If you were to die today, where would you go: Heaven or Hell? If you’re not sure, “Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved.”

Jesus Christ said the most important words ever spoken in the history of the world when He said, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)

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The Most Important Question in the World: Have You Been Twice Born?

This is the “Chief of sinners,” Daniel Whyte III, president of Gospel Light Society International, with the Gospel Light Minute X Podcast #447, titled, “The Big Question.” I’m here to remind you of what the Bible says: that “Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners” like you and me.

“Have You Been Born Again?”

The question is not, “Have you joined a church?” or “Are you trying to do your best?” or “Do you have religion?” but, “Are you twice-born?” Jesus Christ said in John 3:3, “Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.”

We enter the physical world by birth. Spiritual life, likewise, is entered with a birth. We become members of a human family by birth; we become members of the family of God by birth, by being “born again.” There is no other way to get into the human family except by birth, and there is no other way to get into God’s family except by the new birth. Neither education, nor cultivation, nor reformation, nor “turning over a new leaf,” will accomplish this. What is needed is not a new “leaf” but a new “life”! “Ye must be born again” (John 3:7).

A New Nature Needed

By physical birth, we become partakers of human nature; by being born again, we become “partakers of the divine nature.” A Christian is the product of a divine “begetting.” The second birth is not an improvement of the old nature; it is the imparting of an entirely new nature. The old nature is hopelessly corrupt and incapable of ever being made fit for His presence. The new birth requires a creative act of the Holy Spirit. “If any man be in Christ, he is a new creature.”

Not “Trying” But “Trusting”

“Trying to follow Christ” is not Christianity. Christianity is not imitation of Christ; it is the indwelling of Christ. Christianity is not trying to do anything. It is trusting Christ, who has done it all! He has “finished the work,” and there is nothing left to do but simply to receive and trust Him. He shed His precious blood on the cross, and the work is all done once and forever! Cease trying and begin trusting! Believers will progressively become more and more like Christ, but by His power, not their own.

What Must I Do To Be Saved?

Simply “Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ.” The Bible says in 1 John 5:1, “Whosoever believeth that Jesus is the Christ is born of God.” The Bible states in John 1:12-13, “As many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name: Which were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.”

You are born again, you become a Christian by trusting a Person—receiving a Person. The very moment you do this, the Lord Jesus Christ comes in and life begins!

What Is Meant By “Believe”?

To “believe on the Lord Jesus Christ” means more than simply believing the historic facts concerning Him. Intellectual belief about Christ is not sufficient. The belief that brings salvation must be “with the heart,” that is, with the whole being. This belief also includes repentance: “Repentance toward God, and faith toward our Lord Jesus Christ.” The Bible states in Acts 17:30, “God… now commandeth all men everywhere to repent.”

The faith which saves, then, includes the necessity to repent and to receive Christ as Savior and Lord, to rest upon Him alone for salvation. It means to trust Him so utterly and completely that, if He should fail, there would be no hope at all!

May I Know That I Am Born Again?

This is an important question. We know that we are born again by the testimony of God’s Word. God says in John 5:24, “He that heareth my word, and believeth on him that sent me, hath everlasting life, and shall not come into condemnation; but is passed from death unto life.” Have you believed on the Lord Jesus Christ as explained by God’s Word? If so, then you are saved, you are “born again,” you have “passed from death unto life.” God says so! Take God at His Word, and go on your way rejoicing!

One Final Word

You may “belong to a church,” you may be “trying to do the best you can,” you may be “striving to live right.” Your outward life may be the model of moral correctness, and you may be looked up to, honored, revered, and respected. Yet, if you have not been “born again,” you are just as lost as if you had never heard of Christ. Yes, you may teach in the Sunday school, read the Bible, sing, shout, “feel happy,” and all the rest—but if you have never been “born again,” you are still in your sins and a stranger to the Lord Jesus Christ.

If you want to be saved from the wrath to come and from an eternity in Hell, and if you believe that Jesus Christ suffered, bled, and died on the cross for your sins, was buried, and rose again from the dead, and you are willing to trust Jesus Christ with all of your heart so you can go to Heaven, please pray with me what is called the sinner’s prayer:

Holy Father God, I acknowledge that I am a sinner and I admit that I have sinned against You and that I have broken Your Ten Commandments. I have lied before. I have stolen things before. I have lusted after people and things before. I have dishonored and disobeyed my parents. I have taken Your holy Name in vain. For Jesus Christ’s sake, please have mercy and grace upon my soul and forgive me of all of my sins, my failures, and my faults. As I now believe in Your Holy Son, the Lord Jesus Christ. I believe that He suffered, bled, and died on the cross for my sins, was buried, and rose again. Lord Jesus, please come into my heart and save my soul and change my life. Fill me with Your Holy Spirit and help me to repent of my sins past. Help me to turn from my old, evil life and follow You in the new life. For it is in Your Name I pray. Amen.

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