THE 10th ANNIVERSARY OF THE SECOND BEST FATHER’S DAY GIFT THAT DANIEL WHYTE III EVER RECEIVED FROM HIS WIFE, MRS. MERIQUA WHYTE
Proverbs: 14:1: “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.”
THIS IS THE 10th ANNIVERSARY OF THE SECOND BEST FATHER’S DAY GIFT THAT DANIEL WHYTE III EVER RECEIVED FROM HIS WIFE, MRS. MERIQUA WHYTE. THAT GIFT WAS A SPONTANEOUS, UNEXPECTED, SURPRISING APOLOGY AND APOLOGY LETTER FROM MERIQUA WHYTE TO HER HUSBAND, DANIEL WHYTE III, AND TO THEIR 7 CHILDREN — DANIELLA (DANNI), DANIEL IV, DANITA EVANGELINE, DANAE MARY-LOUISE, DANIQUA GRACE, DANYEL EZEKIEL, DANYELLE ELIZABETH BREEDLOVE – FOR NOT BEING THE CHRISTIAN WIFE, MOTHER, AND CHRISTIAN EXAMPLE OF A WOMAN SHE SHOULD HAVE BEEN THROUGHOUT THEIR OVER 36 YEARS OF MARRIAGE. MRS. MERIQUA WHYTE DID THIS 10 YEARS AGO ON FATHER’S DAY. DANIEL WHYTE III BELIEVES WHAT PROMPTED HER AND MOVED HER TO DO THIS WAS THAT IT HAPPENED AROUND THE SAME TIME HIS TWO OLDEST DAUGHTERS, DANIELLA AND DANITA, WHO HAD GRADUATED FROM COLLEGE, WERE MOVING OUT OF THE HOUSEHOLD. HIS TWO GREAT DAUGHTERS LEAVING THE HOUSEHOLD AFTER MANY YEARS SHOOK HIS WIFE, MERIQUA WHYTE, TO HER PROUD, PHAROAHISTIC JAMAICAN CORE.
SURPRISINGLY THIS LETTER BY MRS. MERIQUA WHYTE SPARKED A REBUKE AND REVOLUTION IN THE CHURCH THAT BEAT BACK THE LIE THAT HAS BEEN PERPETUATED FOR MANY YEARS BY PASTORS, PASTORS’ WIVES, SO-CALLED CHURCH COUNSELLORS, AND AUTHORS THAT THE MAN, HUSBAND, AND FATHER IS TOXIC AND IS ALWAYS WRONG, AND THE WOMAN, WIFE, AND MOTHER IS ALWAYS RIGHT. THIS LIE HAS SPAWNED SUCH SAYINGS AS “IF MAMA AIN’T HAPPY, AIN’T NOBODY HAPPY!” AND “HAPPY WIFE, HAPPY LIFE!”, WHICH IS CODE LANGUAGE FOR NO MATTER HOW WRONG AND EVIL A MAN’S WIFE IS, HE IS SUPPOSED TO SHUT UP, SUBMIT TO HER, AND DO WHAT SHE TELLS HIM; OTHERWISE, SHE WILL SHOW HERSELF TO BE UNHAPPY, WHICH MEANS ANGRY, MAD, VINDICTIVE, AND A REBELLIOUS WITCH. BECAUSE DANIEL WHYTE III SAW HIS FATHER, BISHOP DANIEL WHITE Jr. GO THROUGH THIS FOOLISHNESS WITH HIS WIFE AND DANIEL WHYTE III’S MOTHER MANIPULATING, CONTROLLING, AND DOMINATING HER HUSBAND, HE NEVER BOUGHT INTO THAT LIE THAT HAS BEEN PERPETUATED BY PASTORS, PASTORS’ WIVES, OLDER MEN, OLDER WOMEN, AND THE CHURCH FOR MANY YEARS. THIS IS THE REASON WHY WE HAVE HELL IN THE HOME, IN THE CHURCH, AND IN SOCIETY TODAY. WHYTE SAYS AGAIN THAT OVER 60% OF THE PROBLEMS IN THE CHRISTIAN HOME TODAY ARE CAUSED BY THE WIFE, AND THE WIFE CAN SOLVE THESE PROBLEMS IF SHE OBEYS THE WORD OF GOD IN EPHESIANS 5:22-24 and I Peter 3:1-6:
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
I Peter 6:1-3:
1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
Daniel Whyte III Says It Is True That God Expects the Father to Be the Chief Parent in the Home; However, God, the husband, and the Children Expect the Mother to Rise to the Occasion to Be the Helpmeet She Should Be in Raising the Children. It is a tragedy to the family and especially the children when a mother does not rise to the occasion by divorcing her husband or staying in the home and not doing her job. If she does either, her children will grow up and despise her. Women, be the helpmeet to your husband in raising your children whom God and your children expect you to be because in time to come, reaping what you have sown will be a painful thing to handle in your latter years.
Ten years ago today, Meriqua Whyte, the wife of Daniel Whyte III, who has that well-known common strong Pharoahistic-Jamaican pride, stubbornness, and rebelliousness in her, finally broke down voluntarily and on her own on Father’s Day when her oldest two daughters, Daniella and Danita, were in the process of leaving to start their careers after finishing their undergraduate work and graduate work, humbly asked her husband to apologize to him and the children for not being the wife, helpmeet, and mother she should have been down through the years. On this Father’s Day, many of you wives and mothers who have not been the helpmeet to your husband in raising your children should go and do thou likewise before it is too late.
Ten Years Ago, Mrs. Meriqua Whyte, the Wife of Daniel Whyte III, Gave him the Best Father’s Day Gift Ever. She Unexpectedly and Voluntarily Apologized for the First Time to Him and Their 7 Children for Not Being the Wife, Mother, and Christian Example of the Woman She Should Have Been Over the Past 36 Years of Marriage
by Meriqua Whyte
Here’s what Mrs. Meriqua Whyte wrote ten years ago after verbally apologizing to the entire family on Father’s Day right before church service:
Over thirty years of marriage. Over Thirty years of ups and downs. Over Thirty years of trying to make it a personal thing between my husband and me. Thankfully, he did not allow me to do that and kept telling me it was between God and me—over thirty years of acting on my feelings and not on what the Bible says. Over Thirty years of refusing to obey God’s simple command to a wife — to be obedient to your husband in all things. Over Thirty years of disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, lying, and dishonesty, all rooted in pride. Over Thirty years of simply not choosing to mature as a Christian.
God has been dealing with me for over thirty years now about changing my attitude and behavior as a wife, which has manifested itself in disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, lying, dishonesty, having an ungodly attitude and spirit, and simply not being the wife, mother, or example of a Christian woman that I should have been down through the years. (By the way, for those of you who may be thinking that my disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, lying, and dishonesty have resulted in adultery, I will say here that I have never committed any adultery or had sex with another man besides my husband, Daniel Whyte III since I have been born.)
God kept telling me I needed to stop my rebellious and stubborn behavior, apologize to my husband and children, and get my heart right with him, my husband, and my children. He sent others my way to tell me how to behave:
- My husband, but I didn’t want to hear it from him
- Other Christian women speakers
- Other preachers
- Books and other materials, but I would not take heed
I knew what to do, but I chose not to do it. The devil had me thinking and believing, as he is having a lot of wives and mothers thinking and believing, that your relationship with your husband and how you respond to your husband, be it positive or negative, will not affect your relationship with your children and your relationship with God. I say without hesitation that this is one of the devil’s lies, and sad to say, many wives and mothers are falling for this lie.
Another lie of the devil that Christian wives are falling for is that you can still have a strong relationship with God without being submissive to your husband. Lie! Lie! Lie! There is no truth to this. I know because I have experienced this and am still experiencing this as I am going through this breaking process, which is not happening overnight.
Even throughout my years of rebelliousness, stubbornness, and pride, I still kept praying the prayer I used to pray daily before I got married, “Lord, make me be exactly what You want me to be. Lord, break, make, and mold me into what you want me to be.” Well, God took that prayer seriously, and once you accept Him, He will begin the breaking process. It’s up to us how long that breaking process will take. For me, sad to say, it has taken over 30 years, and the breaking is not complete. In what way is God breaking me down right now? Well, our children have grown up; the three oldest have gone through and are still going through college and have gotten their degrees, and some are working on their second, third, and fourth degrees and are launching their careers and moving out. God slapped me into reality and truly intensified the breaking process. My husband told me before our first child was born and repeatedly while the children were young that my job was to love our children and make positive memories with them and that if I did that, I would have a wonderful relationship with them in time to come as adults. Well, I disobeyed God and my husband, who did not let up on his duties. And he has a wonderful relationship with our children, even the girls, and I don’t. However, God led me to break the day before Father’s Day finally, and while I was helping my husband get dressed to preach, I asked him if I could apologize to him and the entire family. That’s the first time I ever did that on my own. Throughout the years, he has always told me that I need to get my heart right with God, him, and my children; otherwise, I will never have the joy and peace of the Lord in my life. However, I kept on lying and denying that I was the problem.
Here is what I said to my husband and children on Saturday afternoon, June 17, 2017, the day before Father’s Day. My husband told the entire family that this was the best Father’s Day gift I have ever given to him:
“Daddy, children, I apologize for not being the wife, mother, and example of a Christian woman I should have been down through the years. I have shown nothing but pride, disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, and a bad attitude and spirit toward God and my husband in front of you. My disobedience and rebelliousness have caused much unnecessary unrest and upheaval in the family. As my husband told me, things could have gone much better if I had obeyed God’s word from the beginning. Please accept my apology, and I am asking you to forgive me.”
The diminishing of peace and joy in my life down through the years I brought on myself. Not having a proper relationship with God, my husband, and my children, I brought on myself—all because I chose the disobedient route. My number one desire is to live a life of peace—peace with God, my husband, and my children. I have learned that peace will not come as long as I live in disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, and pride.
I will end this with two notes: (1) Happy Father’s Day to my husband: you have been a great husband and Father. (2) Happy Children’s Day to my children: You all have been great children. I have no complaints whatsoever against my husband and, of course, children; you have never been at fault. My bad behavior is all on me, and I’m sorry I put you through this. May God bless your lives, and I love you.