HERE WE GO! THE DEVILISH RISE OF THE BROMANCE! More and More Young Men Are Falling More “in Love” With a Brother Than With a Sister on a More Intimate and Emotional Level, Engaging in Unusually Close Friendships, and Expressing Their Feelings to One Another Like Never Before. Daniel Whyte III, President of Gospel Light Society International, Says he Will be as Charitable and Kind as he Can. There Was a Day and Time in the Church Years Ago Where Real Grown Men Were Married to Real Grown Women and Who Never Had a So-Called “BROMANCE” in Their Lives Because That Was Not a Word Back Then, and It is Not a Word Now. The Fellowship Among Brethren Was Rich, Pure, and Great as it Should be. Not so Much Today. The Word of God Says, “Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!” Remember the Word ‘Brethren’ Includes the Sistren. Whyte Says, Let Him be Clear: There is no Such Thing as a Damn “BROMANCE,” and There is no Such Thing as a “MAN HAVING A CRUSH ON A MAN.” So You Sweet Evangelical and Protestant Pastors and Pastors’ Wives and Church People Need to Stop Talking About They Have a “BROMANCE” Going on or My Husband Has a Crush on Pastor So-and-So and Other Such Foolishness. There Should Not Be Any Joking About That Because it is Nothing to Joke About. This Kind of Talk Has Hurt the Church. By the Way, There is no Such Thing as MAN CHURCH or Woman’s Church for That Matter. Throughout the New Testament, MEN AND WOMEN Met Together With the Children. MAN CHURCH is an Oxymoron. You Can’t Have Real Church Without Men, Women, and Children. MAN CHURCH is a MAN-MADE CONSTRUCT Often times Attracting Sodomites/Homosexuals, So-Called Transgendered Individuals, and Especially Men Who Are Married to Women But Who Are on the DOWN-LOW, as well as That Pitiful Group of Men Called INCELS. Whyte Encourages All Young Men to Get a Fine, Phat, Beautiful Woman and Have a ROMANCE With Her and “Let Her Breasts Satisfy You” For the Rest of Your Life, and You Satisfy Her by “Ravishing” Her For the Rest of Her Life. And to Hell With the BROMANCE, SODOMITES, MAN CHURCH, and INCELS!
‘He is always there to listen’: Friendships between young men are more than just beers and banter
Male friendships are often presented in the media and popular culture as relatively superficial, competitive and lacking in emotional depth. With this in mind, it’s not entirely surprising that some people seem to think men have a problem with friendships. While women may be especially quick to draw this conclusion, the idea exists in society as a whole.
Men, we are led to believe, either have low quality friendships, or not enough of them. They lean on women for intimacy, shying away from deep and real connections elsewhere. All of this supposedly increases their chances of loneliness, dysfunction and even suicide. But is this the whole story?
Although we know some men do struggle with friendships – indeed, some men have discussed having no male friends at all – such representations tell a selective, and, we would argue, ultimately inaccurate story of the relationships men build and sustain.
It’s true that men often relate to others differently than women. For example, they might talk less about their emotions. But if we look closely at the way men express themselves and connect to other people, we can begin to see the beating heart of male friendships that’s rarely acknowledged, and often dismissed.
While women may be more skilled at emotional expressions, not all of their conversations are helpful. Some female-to-female friendships can lack empathy and understanding, or the support expected of friends during life’s trials and tribulations.
By focusing on the relative lack of verbal expression to suggest that male friendships are not close, we risk limiting our understanding of what intimacy is. We then do not see how men demonstrate closeness less obviously, in coded ways, or even silently.
Humor is one example
Contrary to the notion that it’s used to “put up walls,” humor, such as the use of provocative nicknames, can promote a sense of closeness. Humor in the military, for instance, is used to express the hardships of the work and channel aggression, all the while creating a sense of togetherness.
There’s an irony in the fact that talk between men which might be construed as offensive to an outside observer, instead can signify an emotional closeness that could only be established between good friends. As one participant in an Australian study of male insults said: “Maybe down the track you might become close enough and then you might start ripping into each other […] I think if people hear you talking like that to other blokes, then they definitely know you’re good mates.”
Resisting masculinity
Amid unspoken rules that men should be “macho” and not express weakness, it’s no wonder they sometimes struggle to open up emotionally.
But readings of male friendships as shallow assume that men are unable to negotiate the rules of masculinity. The truth is that regimes of masculinity are largely imposed on men, and they do their best to play the game, or subvert masculinity if they can.
Many men resist competitive masculinity enough to express vulnerabilities and create deep connections. Still, some men (especially “traditional” men) bury emotions so deeply that it can be hard for them to know what they feel, or even how to name their emotions. Feelings can become foreign, frightening territory, with the temptation to use alcohol and drugs to deal with them.
For some men, opening up and expressing vulnerability is not an option, or perhaps only becomes possible in certain contexts. Drinking is one such context. “Lads will only talk when there’s beer on board, you know, when the guard is down”, as one participant noted in a different study of communication in male friendship.
The risks of opening up include rejection and shaming. But emotional intimacy is possible even in the most unlikely situations, such as stag parties, where emotional expressions of male-to-male love are common (for example, during speeches), and are not scorned.
Source:studyfinds.org
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