Promise Keepers For Women: Women Need To Keep Some Promises Too by Meriqua Whyte, wife of Daniel Whyte III

Promise Keepers for men is meeting today in the Dallas Cowboys stadium and we hope that it goes well and that some good will come out of it. At the same time as my husband, Daniel Whyte III has stated many times that some bishops, pastors, and so-called church leaders along with pastors’ wives, especially in the evangelical church and the charismatic church, have spiritually and psychologically beaten down men so badly over the years giving off the impression that all men are no good, all men are liars, the problem is always the man, that all men are mean and abusive, that all men are sorry and even dumb, and they don’t keep their promises. It’s a running joke in many churches and among many women. By doing that they have destroyed many men, many women, many families, and many children because this is a demonic attack on God’s ordained authority and order — the man, in the home, in the church, and in the greater society, so now we have generations of men who do not know who they are and who feel like they have to go to a convention or some kind of retreat to learn how to be a man and the mere fact that he thinks he has to do something like that or get under somebody else to be a man proves that he is a shell and his manhood is gone. My husband says it is sad to say but many men have had their penises cut off by bishops and pastors and pastor’s wives who have demonically taken over the man’s home life and many men have no authority in their home with their wives and children and in the words of James “these things ought not so to be” and unless that man somehow regains authority in the home, families will continue to be destroyed, churches will continue to dwindle, and society will continue to be devastated. However, because of the aforementioned things, the woman is out of control because many bishops and pastors and pastor’s wives have taught men to put them on pedestals and that they can do no wrong even though most women aren’t good helpmeets to their husbands or loving mothers to their children. So since the church and the world think that men need to keep promises, here are some promises that women should keep, and that includes me, and if women, wives, and mothers keep these promises under the authority of God and their husbands, marriages can be saved, families can be healed, and churches can go on to do what God has called them to do and societies can change and home can be a little bit of heaven on earth again. Women let’s be promise keepers too. Here are some promises to make and to keep.

1. I promise to be a true help meet for my husband and not a “hell meet”. “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” – Genesis 2:18

2. I promise to never embarrass my husband or make him ashamed of me. “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.” – Proverbs 12:4

3. I promise to be a wise woman, wife, and mother always building up and uplifting my family and I promise never to yield to the evil in me to tear down what God and my husband are building up. “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” – Proverbs 14:1

4. I promise to always make our family home a loving, peaceful, and quiet home for my husband and children so that they will never feel better somewhere else than at home. “It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.” – Proverbs 21:9

5. I promise never to be a contentious (“causing or likely to cause an argument or strife; controversial”) and angry woman towards my husband and children in my home. “It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.” – Proverbs 21:9

6. I promise to never be a whore or whorish in my behavior by allowing myself to play whorish eye games with other men besides my husband. I promise to not dress like a whore. “For a whore is a deep ditch; and a strange woman is a narrow pit. She also lieth in wait as for a prey, and increaseth the transgressors among men.” – Proverbs 23:27,28

7. I promise that I will not nag, bother, or irritate my husband. “A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.” – Proverbs 27:15

8. I promise never to commit adultery against God and my husband, and I promise never to lie about adulterous behavior on my part or anything else. “Such is the way of an adulterous woman; she eateth, and wipeth her mouth, and saith, I have done no wickedness.” – Proverbs 30:20

9. I promise to be a trustworthy woman so that my husband can safely trust in me, which I would consider an honor. “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.” – Proverbs 31:11

10. I promise to do my husband good and not evil every day of my life. “She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” – Proverbs 31:12

11. I promise to work hard for the benefit of my family, but not on a job outside the home but in and through the home so that I can take care of his needs and the needs of our children. “She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.” – Proverbs 31:13-16

12. I promise to be strong and honorable for my family by the strength and might of the Lord. “She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.” – Proverbs 31:17-25

13. I promise to control my tongue and make sure what I say is wise and kind to my husband, my children, and others. “She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.” – Proverbs 31:26,27

14. I promise to fear, reverence, honor, and always respect the Lord. “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.” – Proverbs 31:30

15. I promise to be a virtuous woman. “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. … Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.” – Proverbs 31:10, 28-31

16. I promise to remember my place in the divine chain of command under God, Jesus, and my husband. “But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonoureth his head. But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven. For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered. For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man. For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man. For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels. Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.” – I Corinthians 11:3-15

17. I promise to submit and subject myself to my husband voluntarily and cheerfully in all things. “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” – Ephesians 5:22-24

18. I promise to always respect, reverence, and honor my husband at all times, which includes when in front of our children, family members, church members, and the neighbors or with workmates. “Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” – Ephesians 5:33

19. I promise to dress modestly to honor God and my husband. And I promise never to usurp authority over my husband in any way. I will honor him as the pastor of our family. “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.” – I Timothy 2:9-15

20. I promise to carry myself in a holy manner. “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” – Titus 2:3-5

21. I promise to be a sober-minded woman and not a silly-minded woman. “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” – Titus 2:3-5

22. I promise to love my husband by choice and not just by feeling. “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” – Titus 2:3-5

23. I promise to love my children. “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” – Titus 2:3-5

24. I promise to be discreet and never say anything to other people that my husband would be offended by. “As a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion.” – Proverbs 11:22

25. I promise to carry myself as a chaste (“abstaining from extramarital sexual intercourse; pure in thought and act”) and pure woman. “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” – Titus 2:3-5

26. I promise to be an “in time to come” woman understanding that I will not get my reward fully until after I have done a good job taking care of my husband and children. “Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.” – Proverbs 31:25

27. I promise to keep my house clean and in order, not to get it clean but keep it clean. “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” – Titus 2:3-5

28. I promise to be obedient to my own husband at all times. “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” – Titus 2:3-5

29. I promise to subject myself to my husband even if he is not saved as a witness for Christ to him. “While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.” – I Peter 3:2-6

30. I promise I will have a meek and quiet spirit, being more concerned with my inner beauty than my outer beauty. “While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.” – I Peter 3:2-6

31. And I promise to do all these things whether my husband keeps his promises or not for contrary to false evangelical teaching my behavior is not contingent upon his behavior. “So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God. Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way.” – Romans 14:12,13

32. I promise to be ready and willing to have sex with my husband whenever he is ready to have sex. I will not use sex as a weapon to manipulate him, control him, or get him to submit to me or get him to do what I want him to do. I will never give my husband a set of household chores that I am responsible for such as washing the dishes or changing babies in a trade for sex. “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.” – (I Corinthians 7:2-5)

Women, the only way you can be a promise keeper is to accept Jesus Christ as your Saviour. If you have not done that, here is how you can place your faith and trust in Jesus Christ.

First, accept the fact that you are a sinner, and that you have broken God’s law. The Bible says in Romans 3:23: “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.”

Second, accept the fact that there is a penalty for sin. The Bible states in Romans 6:23: “For the wages of sin is death…”

Third, accept the fact that you are on the road to hell. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 18:8: “Wherefore if thy hand or thy foot offend thee, cut them off, and cast them from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life halt or maimed, rather than having two hands or two feet to be cast into everlasting fire.” Also, the Bible states in Revelation 21:8: “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”

Now that is bad news, but here’s the good news. Jesus Christ said in John 3:16: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” Just believe in your heart that Jesus Christ died for your sins, was buried, and rose from the dead by the power of God for you so that you can live eternally with Him. Pray and ask Him to come into your heart today, and He will.

Romans 10:9 & 13 says, “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved… For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”

If you believe that Jesus Christ died on the Cross for your sins, was buried, and rose from the dead, and you want to trust Him for your Salvation today, please pray with me this simple prayer: Holy Father God, I realize that I am a sinner and that I have done some bad things in my life. I am sorry for my sins, and today I choose to turn from my sins. For Jesus Christ sake, please forgive me of my sins. I believe with all of my heart that Jesus Christ died for me, was buried, and rose again. I trust Jesus Christ as my Savior and I choose to follow Him as Lord from this day forward. Lord Jesus, please come into my heart and save my soul and change my life today. Amen.

If you believed in your heart that Jesus Christ died on the Cross, was buried, and rose again, allow me to say, congratulations on doing the most important thing in life and that is accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour! For more information to help you grow in your newfound faith in Christ, go to Gospel Light Society.com and read “What To Do After You Enter Through the Door”. Jesus Christ said in John 10:9, “I am the door: by me if any man enter in, he shall be saved, and shall go in and out, and find pasture.”

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