“How does a wise woman build her house, even in a society where men overtly hold the reins of power as in ancient Israel? 1) Like Ruth and Mary she bears children, knowing that salvation comes from the offspring of women (Genesis 3:15, Ruth 4:11, Luke 1:38, I Timothy 2:15). There is something wrong with those who disdainfully refer to mothers as “breeders.” 2) Like Abigail, a wise woman decisively protects her household from imminent danger, even against the wishes of her foolish husband (I Samuel 25). 3) Like Lydia, a wise woman builds her house by working diligently with her own hands; she is successful at business (Acts 16, see Proverbs 31). 4) Like Leah and Rachel, who despite mutual rivalry and disappointments with husband Jacob, stood with him against their father Laban, knowing that for their new family they had left father and mother (Genesis 31, Psalm 45).”
– DR. BILL EDGAR
Proverbs 14:1: “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.”
Gill’s Exposition of the Entire Bible: “Every wise woman buildeth her house,…. Not only by her fruitfulness, as Leah and Rachel built up the house of Israel; but by her good housewifery, prudent economy; looking well to the ways of her household; guiding the affairs of her house with discretion; keeping all things in a good decorum; and bringing up her children in virtue, and in the fear and admonition of the Lord. So Christ, who in this book goes by the name of “Wisdom”, or the wise woman, builds his house upon himself, the Rock; and all his people on their most holy faith, by means of the ministry of the word, and administration of ordinances: he guides and governs his house, where he is, as a Son in it and over it; and of whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, taken care of, and wisely and plentifully provided for: and so Gospel ministers, who are wise to win souls, being well instructed in the kingdom of God; these “wise women” (y), so it is in the original text, or wise virgins; these wise master builders lay the foundation of Christ ministerially, and build souls on it; and speak things to the edification of the church and people of God, and the building of them up in faith and holiness;”
The wise and virtuous woman uses familiarity with her husband’s ways to her advantage, and that is, to build up her marriage and family and maintain peace within the home.
For example, she knows he likes Green Giant Sweet Kernel Corn so she does not go out and buy another brand to get back at him or spite him or for any other reason. He does not like deodorized bathing soap so she, at all cost, buys the unscented Ivory body wash she knows he loves even if she has to go across town to a special store to get that one item.
The smell of coffee brewing may give her a sick feeling; but his day does not get started right until he has two cups of coffee and black at that. And guess who has to set it to brew and pour it into his favorite coffee mug? Why, you, dear wife.
The wise and virtuous wife does not complain how she hates coffee. She holds her breath, quickly gets the job done with a good attitude, washes the coffee pot out, and, hey, the smell is gone for the rest of the day.
Wives, let’s use our familiarity with our husband’s ways not to breed contempt but to be a crown and a blessing instead.
— Ella Breedlove