“How does a foolish woman pull down her own house? By carelessly, or spitefully, adopting destructive habits that alienate and impoverish her family. She commits adultery with another man — or woman. She spends money the family does not have, or invests the family fortune foolishly in what she does not understand. She mocks, undercuts, and derides her man, robbing him of confidence and courage. She demands her own way, even with tears and threats, until she gets what she wants. She whispers to her children that she, not their father, really loves them, while she subtly, or not so subtly, undercuts his authority.”
– DR. BILL EDGAR
Proverbs 14:1: “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.”
Benson Commentary on Proverbs 14:1: “Every wise woman buildeth her house — By her care, industry: diligence, and prudent management, she improves, and raises her family and estate. So the phrase is used Exodus 1:21; 2 Samuel 7:11; Psalm 127:1. He speaks of the woman, not exclusively of the man, of whom this is no less true, but because the women, especially in those times, were very industrious in managing their husbands’ estates. But the foolish plucketh it down with her hands — By her negligence, idleness, ill management, or want of economy, she lays it low, and wastes all that had been gotten by the care of others.”
I am afraid this is where many wives, myself included, have allowed ourselves to get to. We have allowed ourselves to become so familiar with our husbands we have started to take him for granted, allowing contempt of his mannerisms to set in.
We can just about predict what he is going to say, how he is going to say it, how he is going to do something, what irritates him, etc. We know his rising up and his going down, so to speak.
We have become so familiar with him that we have begun to lose respect for him. We no longer want to wait on him. His words no longer hold weight with us. Those things that were once funny about him are no longer funny to us. We are now bored with him. He has become predictable, and now our relationship is “ho-hum.”
The wise, virtuous woman never allows familiarity to breed contempt in her towards her husband, thus preventing her from building up their relationship and hence, her home.
— Ella Breedlove