Welcome to the Whyte House Family Spoken Novels podcast episode #260. Today we are reading chapter 30 of the novel “I Need Someone to Pray with Me” by Daniel Whyte III with Meriqua Whyte.
“Ladies, thank you so much for coming out. Today, we have a guest speaker. I’d like to introduce Mr. Quintin Rodney. He’s a dear friend of mine and a lawyer. God has blessed him and used him to help others. I’ll let him introduce himself further. Let’s give him a warm welcome.”
Quintin took his place before the ladies as they welcomed him with applause.
“Thank you, ladies. I count it an honor to be here. I’m Quintin Rodney and it’s a pleasure to be with you all. When Aubrey asked me to share a word with you, I hesitated as I thought, what could I, a man, say to you ladies that would encourage you in your situation considering that you may actually hate all men.”
The ladies chuckled. “We don’t hate them; we still love them,” one lady named Kiera said.
“I’m glad to hear that. Anyway, I wanted to decline, but she kept begging me and would not let up until I gave in. So, if I end up being a disappointment to you ladies, you can blame her.”
Aubrey smiled as their eyes met.
A tranquil spirit seemed to fall upon everyone in the room as Quintin opened up in prayer.
“God is interested in keeping families together,” he said, “and that is one reason I decided to be a family lawyer—to help families so they can live the life God has given them in harmony. Not only am I a lawyer, but I am also a Christian. Today, I will share with you some things I believe are biblically based or may be just common sense about spousal abuse.
“First, I do not believe a man ought to hit a woman for any reason whatsoever. I just do not believe God is pleased with it. In most cases, it is not even a fair fight. Picture a little lady about 100 pounds, and she’s married to a man say about 250 pounds, and they get into it one day, and he rears back and punches her. She does not stand a chance. Even in the boxing arena, boxers have to compete against someone in the same weight category.
“Second, there are some signs to look out for. If he never gets upset or voices his disappointment in anything, beware as he may be keeping things bottled up inside of him until he reaches a breaking point and then there’s a big ol’ blow-up. It’s like vigorously shaking a soda can. The pressure inside the can builds up and when you pop the can open—POW!—everything explodes out. What do you have to do to control it again? Set the soda can down and leave it alone until its contents settle down. From a human standpoint, that blow-up manifests itself not only in physical abuse, but verbal abuse.
“Third, if you sense a problem and he never wants to discuss it—be careful. There is nothing wrong with you and your husband disagreeing on things from time to time. All marriages experience that. But, it is best to lovingly communicate with one another before the situation gets out of hand. In my law practice, I have found that this is normally the storyline. When it gets to the point of physical or verbal abuse, normally it is something that has been brewing for a long time in the marriage on both sides. Yes, that’s right, women, it takes two to tango. I can’t tell you how many women who have said to me after things have settled down, ‘He’s not the only one wrong; I’m at fault too.'”
Some of the women nodded their heads in agreement.
“Fourth, if he tries to control your every move—that’s a warning sign; be careful,” Quintin continued. “At the same time, make sure that you carry yourself as a woman of integrity, honesty, and character so that you won’t give him a reason to start doing that.
“Fifth, if he uses threatening phrases like: ‘You’re gonna pay,’ ‘I’m gonna deal with you about it,’ ‘I won’t forget this’ (referring to something you did that he was not pleased with)—that’s a warning sign; be careful. These are some tell-tale signs that I and other family lawyers and family counselors have noticed as we deal with clients in an abusive situation. And if he is giving out serious threats like that, it would be better for you to leave at that point than to wait until something blows up. If you are doing the best you can as a wife or mother, you do not need to be in a threatening environment. A man should never hit a woman, but at the same time, I would say to you, ladies, make sure that you are living your life in a way that is pleasing to God. Follow the example of some of the older women who knew how to handle a man and were able to defuse issues before they got out of hand. I encourage you to seek out an older woman in the church to advise you on how to handle a man. Contrary to what you might think, it doesn’t take much to please a good man and get him to the point where he will move the world to make you happy. But you have to be a good woman too.”
Mother Jamison reached over and squeezed Aubrey’s hand as she knew this meeting must be tough for her having to relive her nightmare marriage. Aubrey smiled at her mother and whispered, “I’m all right, Mother. The pain is gone.”
“Now, I have to be fair across the board,” Quintin continued. “What I am about to say next may get some of you upset, but please hear me out before you cut me off. Some husbands have shared with me that sometimes their wives do things that just gets to them. I had one husband to tell me that his wife abuses him too. This is what he told me. He said she abuses him whenever she rolls her eyes, talks back to him in a disrespectful way, blows, walks off whenever he tries to discuss something, or just has a nasty attitude and spirit. He told me and I quote: ‘Whenever my wife disrespects me like that I feel she is abusing me, so it goes both ways.'”
Apart from some grunts after those last words, the ladies hung on to every word he shared with them.
“Now, ladies, some of these signs manifest themselves even before you get married. So for those of you here who may be single, be observant; and with much prayer ask God to help you to make the right decision regarding a potential mate. Ladies, I have never been married before so I don’t pretend to know all there is to know about marriage, but I do know from observing my own parents’ marriage that it can and should be a beautiful thing if done God’s way. My parents had that special something that I have heard God puts in a marriage between a husband and his wife—and that is a bond that cannot be easily broken.”
As Quintin surveyed the crowd, he saw Kiera wipe her eyes. Looking directly at her, he said, “God loves you and wants the best for you. I know you may love your husband but sometimes love must be tough; sometimes love has to say goodbye for your own protection.”
Kiera smiled and nodded as the lady sitting next to her placed an arm around her shoulders.
“In closing, ladies,” Quintin finished, “let me encourage you to pray each day for your marriage. Ask God to create within you that meek and quiet spirit that the Bible speaks of and to help you to not respond negatively towards your mate; respect him and God will reward you. From a male’s point of view, there is something very attractive and, I might add, sexy about a woman who has a meek and quiet spirit. So practice that with your man and leave the results to God.”
Smiling, Quintin added, “I knew I could get a smile out of some of you.”
The ladies laughed.
“There’s a lot more I could share with you, but I’ll leave it here for now. I’ll do part two if you invite me back,” Quintin joked.
“We want you back,” the ladies said out loud.
“We’ll definitely have him back,” Aubrey assured them as she took the podium.
Thank you for joining us for this episode of Whyte House Family stories. You may purchase a copy of this novel and any other Christian fiction books read on this podcast from Amazon.com.
Now, dear listener, please know that God—the divine Author of all things—wants to write a great story with your life as well. But first you must give Him the pen by trusting Him with the life He gave you and surrendering your heart to Jesus Christ as Savior. Here is how:
- Accept the fact that you are a sinner, and that you have broken God’s law. The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 7:20: “For there is not a just man upon earth that doeth good, and sinneth not.” Romans 3:23 reads: “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.”
- Accept the fact that there is a penalty for sin. The Bible states in Romans 6:23: “For the wages of sin is death…”
- Accept the fact that you are on the road to hell. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 10:28: “And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.” The Bible says in Revelation 21:8: “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”
- Accept the fact that you cannot do anything to save yourself! The Bible states in Ephesians 2: 8, 9: “For by grace are ye saved through faith: and that not of yourselves: it is a gift of God. Not of works, lest any man should boast.”
- Accept the fact that God loves you more than you love yourself, and that He wants to save you from hell. Jesus Christ said in John 3:16, “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
- With these facts in mind, please repent of your sins, believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and pray and ask Him to come into your heart and save you this very moment. The Bible states in the book of Romans 10:9, 13: “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.”
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”
Dear friend, if you are willing to believe on the Lord Jesus Christ for salvation, please pray with me this simple prayer: Heavenly Father, I realize that I am a sinner and that I have done some bad things in my life. For Jesus Christ sake, please forgive me of my sins. I now believe with all of my heart that Jesus Christ died for me, was buried, and rose again. Lord Jesus, please come into my heart and save my soul and change my life today. Amen.
If you believed in your heart that Jesus Christ died on the cross, was buried, and rose again, allow me to say, congratulations on doing the most important thing in life and that is accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour! For more information to help you grow in your newfound faith in Christ, go to Gospel Light Society.com and read “What To Do After You Enter Through the Door”. Jesus Christ said in John 10:9, “I am the door: by me if any man enter in, he shall be saved, and shall go in and out, and find pasture.”
May God bless you until next time.