Prominent women’s ministry leader Lysa TerKeurst is the first to admit she struggles with forgiveness.
“I’m actually quite resistant to forgiveness,” the popular Bible teacher who leads Proverbs 31 Ministries admitted in an interview with The Christian Post. “I found myself stuck in feeling like some of the unchangeable things in my life were unforgivable. Unchangeable can feel so unforgivable because someone’s done something in your life, and they can’t fix it, they can’t make it go back to the way that it was.
“And that unchangeable nature can feel so unforgivable because even if the person was willing to make it right, they can’t make it right. And that hopelessness can really lead you to some deep, dark places.”
It wasn’t until she acknowledged her pain that she was able to begin the journey of forgiveness — a revelation TerKeurst said was both life-changing and empowering. She wrote out her grievances on note cards, fully acknowledged what had happened, and said aloud, “I deserve to stop suffering because of what’s been done to me.”
“Something in me shifted when I started with my pain,” she shared. “I realized, forgiveness is not this unfair gift that I have to give to the person who hurt me. Forgiveness is the decision that I get to make. It’s a step toward my healing. So ultimately, it’s God’s gift to me so that I can heal.”