David Zuccolotto on This Thing Called Love

“My husband fell three times last night. I had to give him a cloth bath because he lost control of his bowels.” The woman was my first patient this morning. A young woman’s journey with her husband, diagnosed with ALS (Lou Gehrig’s disease), which has become debilitating.

During our one hour video session she made one comment that stuck.

“My big question for the day is do I clean the kitchen or go snuggle with my husband on the couch, because the days seem short.” Sharing love with her husband trumped all other concerns.

Earlier that morning I had read the news with my morning coffee. Updates on the “big issues” of life: riots in Washington, election fraud and economic fears. The rise of mental health issues, overburdened hospitals and social chaos. A bleak beginning to my day.

Dr. David Zuccolotto is a former pastor and clinical psychologist. | Courtesy of David Zuccolotto

Then came that 8am patient and her husband dying from ALS.

I couldn’t shake her simple and beautiful expression of love for her husband. The little things. Caring for him in his humiliation and inability to control his bodily functions. The soft touch of her hand as she shared a movie on the couch and left the dirty dishes in the kitchen – this thing called love.

I realize we have big issues. Battles we need to fight, values to be defended and God’s Truth upheld at all costs. But if we forget love we become nothing more than a noisy gong.

“If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.  If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.” (1Corinthians 13: 1-3)

It is interesting that the apostle Paul lists actions we normally associate with loving God: faith, dedication to knowledge, moving mountains (overcoming life’s obstacles), feeding the poor and self-sacrifice. Yet one can perform good deeds and miss God’s concept of love. God does not want our sacrifices, church programs or systematic theologies. He wants our hearts. He wants us to love him with all our heart, minds and souls and love our neighbors as ourselves. It is from that love that all deeds should flow.

I don’t think God’s redemption was Paul’s primary point regarding his message of love. Paul wasn’t talking about salvation or faith. Faith, knowledge and obedience were assumed. Paul’s meaning of love was about the heart. Love as a quality of life because God has created all things. Love is from God and EVERYONE has a taste of its joys, both profound and simple.

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