Joseph Mattera on 20 Ways to Know If You Have a Victim or Victor Mindset

I have lived in NYC for over six decades and have observed many kinds of people: those with a victim mentality and those with a victor mentality. In this article, I will examine some traits that are distinct to each group.

Those with the victim mindset interpret the world in a completely different way than those with the victor mindset. People with a victim mindset view an obstacle as an unfair challenge, while the latter view obstacles as an opportunity to overcome. It is obvious to most that in American politics, candidates often attempt to appeal to these groups. To those with a victim mindset, they pledge to intervene in their challenges. To those with a victor’s mindset, they promise to provide opportunities with limited government intervention.

How you identify yourself internally (as either a victim or victor) should have nothing to do with your skin color or the community in which you were raised.  Many will argue that personality, temperament, psychological upbringing, emotional abuse, etc., can often contribute to having a victim mentality. However, many point to highly accomplished leaders, such as Booker T. Washington, George Washington Carver, Martin Luther King Jr., Jessie Owens, Jackie Robinson, Walter Williams, and Thomas Sewell as examples of those who overcame enormous challenges such as racism and poverty,  On the other hand, I have witnessed many who, despite being brought up in affluence, felt prey to a victim mentality, became self-loathing, defeatist and ended up a failure.

I’ll use my background to further illustrate this point. I was brought up in a small apartment in a lower-middle-class white neighborhood. When my friends discovered I was part Hispanic, they started making fun of me. However, instead of hiding in a corner, I aggressively returned the favor, making fun of them and putting them in their place. They never touched the subject again. Why did I respond this way? Because I had within me an intrinsic sense of self-worth that transcended any insults that others threw at me.

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As Christians, we are called to walk with an internal understanding that we are more than conquerors in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:37).

Believers must never entertain a victim mindset. The world is full of people captivated by this mindset, which has resulted in millions of people becoming enslaved, and unable to fulfill their God-given potential.

One of the most important things that my wife, Joyce, and I have instilled in each of our five biological children is that they are victors, not victims! We taught them that everybody will have life challenges, but this is no excuse to cower in a corner and feel sorry for yourself. We also taught our children that as they got older, nobody else could truly help them if they didn’t help themselves.

We taught our children to be the head and not the tail, to be above and not beneath, to use their creativity to become entrepreneurial and leaders, and not followers of groupthink (Deuteronomy 28:10-13).

Millions are caught up in a victim mentality because they are ignorantly following the “groupthink” of their peers, the media, their political party, and their culture. Many believers in Christ have been caught up in the world’s mind games that pit one group against the other: the “haves” against the “have nots”.

For example, the Marxists, far-left liberals, and socialists (as presently embodied in many politicians, community leaders, and media personalities), play on the victim spirit. They engage in class warfare and make a living by painting whole groups of people as victims in order to get elected. They want to be seen as those who parachute to the rescue of those with a victim mindset. They disempower specific segments of the population with their rhetoric in order to be seen as the heroes, ensuring that they remain in the spotlight. Consequently, if the victim mindset was not prevalent, thousands of politicians and activists would be out of a job!

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SOURCE: Christian Post, Joseph Mattera