Charlotte Pence Bond on Who is More Humble? The Person Who Apologizes or the Person Who Forgives?

The act of forgiveness is something that we must continually practice, but it does not come easily. Forgiveness is complex, and it involves the act of humbling one’s self, as well as extending grace to others.

When I think about the concept of humility coexisting with forgiveness, the person apologizing is usually the one who is humbled. However, I have come to see this in a different light. It is actually a humbling experience – and often a very difficult one – to be the person who is required to forgive.

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Forgiving someone who has wronged us means that we have to admit that something they did bothered us. It requires us to be honest about the fact that we have the potential to be hurt by someone, which inherently implies that people have power over our feelings.

Jesus asks us to “turn the other cheek,” and when we are in the process of being verbally hit by someone, this can seem like the most difficult thing to do. But when the fight is over, it can be easy to become self-righteous, and even feel like we are better than the other person because we backed down. Anyone who has been in a feud knows this is rarely the end of the encounter. Rather, the true test comes afterwards when Jesus asks us to forgive them for hurting us, even if they didn’t ask us to.

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SOURCE: Christian Post, Charlotte Pence Bond

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