Kayla Tucker Adams on Seven Tips to Maintain a Happy, Healthy Marriage in the New Year

An newly-wed African-American couple holding each other

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The new year typically brings resolutions, most often regarding weight loss, finances, etc. But what about resolutions that lead to a stronger, healthier marriage?

As we walk into 2020, the start of a new year and a new decade, I’d like to offer a few tips for marriage.

1.      Love hard; forgive easily. Forgiveness can be a difficult task that takes extreme sacrifice, but the reality is that we often need it daily. Whether it’s a small spat or a big blow-up, we all need to forgive and extend the same grace in our relationships that God gives us.

Ephesians 4:2 (NIV) Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.

2.      I love you even when I don’t like you!  While you always have love for your spouse, the reality is that there are times when you may not like them or their behavior. Loving your spouse is the easy part, but what do you do when you are having a moment when you don’t like them? Loving our spouses despite their shortcomings is certainly something to strive for.  Colossians 3:19 (NIV) Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

3.      Make oneness a priority. This is so important that there are four references to it in the Bible. While we typically understand the physical aspects of oneness, it is much more than that. Oneness also speaks to being on the same page; on one accord. When you are walking together as one, it creates an unbreakable bond that no one can penetrate.

Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:5, Mark 10:8, Ephesians 5:31

Mark 10:8 (NIV) And the two will become one flesh.’[a] So they are no longer two, but one flesh.

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SOURCE: Christian Post, Kayla Tucker Adams