Too often TV sitcoms and movies today depict parents in a negative light, deserving little regard, let alone honor. Even the short commercials for shows like The Simpsons, Mom and others communicate that parents are not worthy of respect, let alone honor.
In society today, bad family relationships are viewed as acceptable and those who make it alone are applauded. But that is not the way God intends for families to work.
The fifth commandment reads in the Amplified Bible: “Honor (respect, obey, care for) your father and your mother, so that your days may be prolonged in the land the Lord your God gives you” (Ex. 20:12).
The promise associated with this commandment (that your days may be long) emphasizes the direct correlation between a person’s attitude toward his parents and the degree to which he experiences the fulfillment of God’s promises in his personal life. The family unit is a microcosm of the kingdom of God, providing earthly patterns for authority and protective structures that exist in the spiritual realm. This is why the Bible teaches that the mystery of the kingdom can be understood through the family.
The overarching spiritual picture is that after we experience salvation through the new birth, God becomes our heavenly Father through the process of “spiritual adoption.” Once we become a member of God’s spiritual family and submit to the authority of that new family, God’s promises of nurturing, protection, guidance, provision and instruction are released to us. The blessings of obedience to God begin with obedience to the parental authorities He gave us.
In the ideal family situation, loving parents who follow the Lord train their children in the ways of the Lord. By God’s design, parents, not the priests, were given the responsibility and authority to instruct, train and admonish their children in the ways of God and to establish His kingdom rule in the family. Parents should be honored by children in the same way that God should be honored by His adopted spiritual children. Parents who are submitted to God and actively seek to obey His commandments create an environment that invites the blessings of God on their family. Children who honor the instructions and wishes of the parents fall in line with the authority structure God designed and benefit from His promises.
Based on the original language used in Scripture, author and teacher John Bevere defines “honor” as appreciating, holding in esteem or in high regard and treating with value. I often teach about four attributes that attract God’s presence: holiness, humility, honesty and honor. I joined some of the core team of my ministry as we studied John’s book Honor’s Reward. “Dishonoring our parents,” John says in the book, “has become a normal way of life in America. It’s steeped in our culture.”
When children don’t honor their parents, doors to bitterness, unforgiveness, anger and all sorts of relational sorrows are opened. Conversely, when children honor and obey parental authority, conflict is reduced and the peace of God prevails in the home. Both the quality and the quantity of a person’s life are enhanced through simple obedience to the Word of God.
Like any good earthly parent, our heavenly Father is concerned about the safety and well-being of His children. In Proverbs 6:20-23, He told children to listen to their parents’ guidance as it will serve as a protection for them.
My son, keep your father’s commandment, and do not forsake the instruction of your mother. Bind them continually upon your heart, and tie them around your neck. When you go, they will lead you; when you sleep, they will keep you; and when you awake, they will speak with you. For the commandment is a lamp, and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life.
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SOURCE: Charisma News