Oprah Winfrey has been with her partner Stedman Graham for 32 years, but she doesn’t regret at all that they never tied the knot or had children.
The 65-year-old covers the new issue of People this week, and told the magazine that the longtime couple’s ‘untraditional’ relationship has stayed strong all these years precisely because she and Stedman, 68, never got married.
‘Both he and I now say, “If we had married, we would not be together,”‘ she said. ‘No question about it — we would not stay married, because of what that would have meant to him, and I would have had my own ideas about it.’
The media mogul met her longtime love in 1986, and they even got engaged in 1992 — but they never went through with a wedding.
‘I was working these 17-hour days, and so were my producers, and then I go home and I have my two dogs and I have Stedman, who’s letting me be who I need to be in the world,’ she explained.
Stedman never demanded things of her, like having dinner on the table — but Oprah thinks that would have changed had they married.
‘That’s why I had not just cold feet, I had two feet in a block of cement — because my feeling was, he is a traditional guy, but this is a completely untraditional relationship,’ she reflected.
‘If it remained a relationship, I can manage it. If I become the wife, now I’ve got to play by the rules of whatever that is, and that would not have been pretty.
Of course, not getting married doesn’t mean a couple can’t have kids, but Oprah ultimately decided that wasn’t a path she should go down.