Kevin G. Harney on One of My Biggest Recurring Mistakes in Ministry

Kevin Harney is the lead pastor of Shoreline Community Church in Monterey, California, the Founder and Visionary Leader of Organic Outreach Ministries International, and the author of the Organic Outreach trilogy of books and many other books, studies, and articles. He is also a regular contributor to Outreach Magazine.

About 25 years ago the folks at Leadership Network invited a group of “Young Leaders” to a gathering in Glen Eyrie, Colorado. The goal was that we would learn from each other, and Leadership Network would gather these lessons and share them with the church at large.

The motivation was pure, but the initial results were disastrous. They had done this same kind of gathering with older leaders and pastors and found it very fruitful. The gathering of younger leaders seemed to get stuck because most of us were arrogant, self-interested, and not quick to listen to others (we were young).

It became clear that this group was not going to humbly share from a place of transparency and generosity.

Near the end of the first day, the primary facilitator from Leadership Network tossed out the agenda and decided to ask us one surprising question: Would you be willing to share a big mistake or mess-up in your ministry?

For the next three hours, leader after leader shared honest stories of failed plans, flubbed efforts, and personal mistakes along the way. We laughed until tears flowed. The pretense and self-aggrandizement melted away.

We became friends. As a matter of fact, three of the leaders I met at that gathering remain my friends to this day.

As stories were shared, we began to learn from each other’s failings and struggles. We started to trust each other. We got past the insecure facades and saw people who were trying to serve Jesus and his church.

In that same spirit, let me share one of my biggest shortcomings in my 30 years of ministry. It is a pattern I have identified in the past year, and when I look backward, I can see that I have made the same mistake over and over again. Maybe my story and honesty will help you avoid making the same mistake.

Here it is: I took way too long to make the hard decision to fire someone or remove a person from leadership when I was confident it was the right thing to do. In most cases, I did eventually make the hard decision, but it was often months late. In a couple of cases, I delayed for more than a year.

I have been asking myself, why?Why would I delay to do the right thing? Why keep an elder on the church board who is divisive, angry, and perpetually negative? Why retain a staff member who is lazy, does not carry his or her weight, and is always making lame excuses for a lack of commitment and fruitfulness in their work?

Why have someone keep serving when everyone knows that person is doing a poor job and nothing is going to change? Why keep looking the other way?