Lisa Kum was 17 when she says she had sex with a man from her church who was nearly 16 years older than she was.
She said she, too, was sexually abused and groomed from a young age to accept it. The waves and winks began from the stage during Sunday morning services. The man would wave and later wrote notes to Kum that he would put in her coat pockets and hide in other places for her to find.
“I remember him waving at me and making faces and winking,” Kum said in an interview. “It was the winking that always made me feel a little weird, but I was so young. I was only nine.”
The man, who the Cap Times is not naming because he has not been charged with a crime, eventually got physical with Kum, she said, even after he married another woman. He continued to write her notes and they eventually had sex.
When the church’s pastor at the time, John Grant, found out about it around 1993, he told Kum she must confess to the adult women in the congregation and apologize if she wanted to continue attending the church, the church school and youth group.
So she did.
John Seidl, executive pastor of Calvary Gospel, replied to an email seeking comment for this story by saying the church stands by its previous statement.
“We obey and apply all Mandatory Reporting requirements defined by law in Wisconsin,” Seidl said.
Standing in front of dozens of women and admitting to an act she later realized was abuse was a humiliation Kum still has not processed and avoided dealing with for years, she said.
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SOURCE: The Cap Times, Katelyn Ferral