John Piper on How Someone Can Forgive Their Parents for Childhood Abuse

Reformed theologian and founder John Piper recently gave three points of advice for a person who struggled to forgive their parents for childhood abuse.

In an episode of the podcast “Ask Pastor John” posted Wednesday, an unnamed listener emailed Piper asking how to forgive his parents.

“I’ve been a Christian for seventeen years but struggle with forgiveness of my parents for my abusive childhood. I know that the Lord teaches forgiveness, as does the Bible in many passages. I’m able to forgive others injustices and wrongs, but I really struggle with memories of my childhood,” wrote the listener.

“Please help me to understand how I can get peace over this matter and try to forgive them, a forgiveness that lasts for all time, not just until another memory surfaces.”

Piper responded by giving three suggestions regarding the issue of forgiveness, starting with pointing out that “being able and willing to forgive grows out from the root of being forgiven.”

“… when I feel most guilty at the horror of my own sin against God and against Jesus, and when I feel most amazed at my own forgiveness, and most stunned at the magnitude of what it cost in Jesus’ suffering, I am least likely to be angry at those moments with those who have wronged me,” said Piper.

“My suggestion is to linger long and deep over the cost, the hope, the preciousness, and the amazing wonder of being forgiven at the cost of Christ’s life.”

Piper then suggested that whenever one feels wronged and demands justice, that they “roll that over onto the judge who judges justly.”

“You don’t have to bear the awful weight of being the judge and the avenger yourself. You can trust that justice will be done,” he continued.

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SOURCE: Christian Post, Michael Gryboski

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