Roland C. Warren: Why We Should Stop Encouraging Women to Avoid Motherhood

Have you noticed that, for many in our culture, motherhood is not something to celebrate but something to avoid at all costs?

For some, motherhood means the end of women’s careers, hopes, and dreams. Motherhood, they believe, does nothing to advance their lives or secure their futures; it is not part of being the modern “empowered woman.” Accordingly, they support abortion on demand as being a necessity for the advancement of women.

The irony is that these folks are in agreement with a fundamental belief of the patriarchal societies they reject: women can either be mothers or they can be successful in their careers — but they cannot be both.

Interestingly, Susan B. Anthony, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, and the other great women who fought for equal rights for women did not view pregnancy and motherhood as a lesser calling than working in a factory or office. Rather they fought to ensure that women would not have to choose between the two.

Ironically, those who argue that pregnancy and motherhood are obstacles to women’s empowerment accept the basic premise of this flawed logic. They say in effect, “A woman can’t be a mother and be successful in her career, so we need abortion in order for women to achieve their dreams.” Instead of motherhood, now a woman’s social value, much like a man’s, is often determined exclusively by her career goals and achievements. We have swapped one logical fallacy for another.

The foremothers who fought so that women could have the freedom to choose a career and/or family, workplace and/or home; now many leaders who say they are carrying the “women’s rights” banner say “you can pick only one.”

So motherhood has become a lesser calling, a relic of our past. No longer is it “cool” for a young woman to say she longs to be a mom. “Think bigger! Don’t limit yourself,” she’s told, as if deciding to sustain life, give birth, and then raise a child is a “limiting” experience.

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SOURCE: Christian Post, Roland C. Warren

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