Have you ever wanted more information about adoption but have been afraid to ask? Sometimes we feel as if our questions are insensitive. Other times we believe that if we start asking questions we’ll feel pressured to commit. I’m an adopted mom of seven kids, and I asked some of my friends to share their most pressing questions. Here are the most common ones:
1. What is the cost of adoption?
The cost of adoption varies with the type of adoption. According to AdoptUSKids.org the cost of adopting a healthy newborn from the United States—or a child from other country can cost between $5,000-$40,000. The cost is based on agency and/or attorney fees. Yet not all adoptions cost that much. In most states it is free or low-cost to adopt from foster care. According to statistics stated on the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services website, the average cost of adopting from foster care can run anywhere between $0 to $2,500. In most states it is free. Also, if you adopt from foster care, the state typically pays for a child’s health care and therapists through the age of eighteen. In some cases you can also receive a monthly stipend to pay for a child’s additional costs, even after the adoption is finalized. That’s how big the need for adoption through foster care is, they’ll give you assistance to see them have a loving home.
2. Can a child’s birth parents come back for them after an adoption?
This is something that everyone fears, but in the vast majority of cases it is not possible for a birth parent to be granted custody after an adoption is finalized. If it’s a private adoption, the biological parents’ rights are terminated by the courts after the parents sign the legal documents. In the case of adoption from foster care, the biological parents’ rights are terminated by the state before the child is eligible to be adopted. Sometimes parents foster first, and then they are later able to adopt the child they foster. But also there are many children whose parents’ rights have already been terminated, and they are open for adoption. You can find out more about waiting kids here: Adopt Us Kids or Heart Gallery of America.
3. What should you do if you want to adopt but your spouse doesn’t agree?
Successful adoptions are only possible when both parents are dedicated and committed. If your spouse isn’t committed consider offering help to orphans in other ways until both of you are on board with adoption.
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SOURCE: Christian Post, Tricia Goyer