A mother has provoked a furious debate after revealing that she won’t allow her 19-year-old boyfriend to share a bed with her boyfriend, 23, when he stays the night at their home.
Writing under the handle ‘Amumoftwo’, the woman took to British parenting site Mumsnet to ask others how they would react, explaining that the idea made her and her husband ‘uncomfortable’.
She added that her own parents wouldn’t have allowed her to have a boyfriend stay overnight when she was her daughter’s age.
Her question provoked a flurry of responses, with some arguing that her daughter should be treated like an adult, while others said she’s entitled to set boundaries in her own home.
Many commenters argued that she shouldn’t compare her own parents’ restrictions to the current situation.
One person said: ‘Things have moved on, so I kind of think you are being unreasonable. It’s much harder nowadays for children to move out, and in effect you are preventing her having a proper adult relationship.
‘She waited until they had been together a while and you knew and liked him before asking. She did respect you enough to wait until a point she felt you should be comfortable.’
Another added: ‘It’s her home and she should be able to. I don’t buy into the “my house, my rules” thing – it’s my children’s home as well. My daughter and her boyfriend have their own bedroom here. I bought a double bed for them.’
Others defended the mother and revealed that they also wouldn’t allow their teenage daughter to have partners stay overnight.
‘If they were engaged or at least had been together for a long time that might be different,’ one wrote. ‘If you let it happen with this boyfriend, you can’t say no to future boyfriends, and before you know it your house just become a knocking shop.’
SOURCE: Daily Mail, Latoya Gayle