This Thanksgiving, I Thank God for Difficult People

In the fall of 1863, President Abraham Lincoln issued two landmark statements. You probably know about the first—the famous Gettysburg Address, in which Lincoln commemorated the battlefield of Gettysburg. At Gettysburg, Lincoln called the nation to remember the sacrifice of the fallen and to redouble its commitment to the cause of freedom.

The other statement, made just weeks before, may be a bit more surprising. On October 3, 1863, President Lincoln instituted the first official Thanksgiving holiday.

Lincoln wrote, “It has seemed to me fit and proper that [the gracious gifts of the Most High God] should be solemnly, reverently and gratefully acknowledged as with one heart and one voice by the whole American People.” Thus Lincoln set apart the last Thursday of November as “a day of Thanksgiving and Praise to our beneficent Father.” Apparently, in the midst of the worst war our nation had ever seen, Lincoln thought the time was ripe for gratitude.

We may be tempted to think Lincoln’s statement of gratitude was inappropriate, naïve, or even offensive. Reading the entire text of Lincoln’s Thanksgiving Proclamation, however, disabuses the modern reader from the conclusion that he had (somehow) forgotten about the Civil War. Lincoln candidly addressed the horrors of the Civil War, a war “of unequaled magnitude and severity” that had transformed tens of thousands of Americans into “widows, orphans, mourners or sufferers in the lamentable civil strife.” But he coupled this hardship with hope, recognizing the hand of God guiding him through the valley of the shadow of death.

Conflict and gratitude. Hardship and hope. Lincoln wasn’t confused. He was seeing thanksgiving through a biblical lens.

Bear With One Another … And Be Thankful
The apostle Paul, writing to the believers in Colossae, combines the ideas of conflict and thanksgiving in a familiar passage:

Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. (Col. 3:12–15, ESV)

Whenever Paul piles up short imperatives like this, it can be easy to miss the freight behind each command. For those of us overly familiar with “church talk,” we fly over lists like these. Kindness, I’ve heard that one. Humility, that one, too. Meekness, check. Patience, check. On we go down the list, nodding along in passive agreement. Mentally, we begin to reduce Paul’s commands down to “God wants us to be nice.”

And we miss the difficult, counter-cultural, toe-stomping challenge Paul is actually giving.

You see, none of what Paul says here is enjoyable in practice. To grow in patience, we must be in situations that require patience. To grow in meekness, we must be in situations that require submission—and we must choose submission, too. To forgive, we must be wronged, and then we must choose to extend grace anyway. And if “humility” sounds like “humiliation” to you, you’re actually not too far off the track.

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SOURCE: Christianity Today, Chris Pappalardo