Dr. Bobby E. Mills on Family Based Christianity

Dr. Bobby E. Mills

We live in decadent times. American society is in a spiritual free-fall and a spiritual-moral decline. God-fearing Christians find themselves constantly in spiritual warfare with secular humanism; in some Christian churches secularism is already an “order-of-the-day”. Theologically, as well as, sociologically family is the foundation of society. When family structure deteriorates society crumbles. This is precisely why so-called-same-sex-marriage is such a dangerous societally proposition, because family-based spiritual attitudes and social behaviors are vital in terms of healthy personalities and inter-personal-relationships, as well as, healthy communities. Twenty-first century Christianity is in desperate need of a good-long-hard-spiritual-investigation of itself: looking-glass-self-mirror.

In the White community, Christian churches have a country-club, non-threatening, spiritual attitude concerning Sunday worship services (silence is consent and contentment). And, at the same time, White Christians take no actions toward government policies that are designed to dehumanize minorities. In this instance, the silent majority is not the moral majority. The sacred words written in the preamble to the U.S. Constitution are not spiritualized “universally” in the White Christian Experience. What is taught in our family structures and reinforced in our (significant-other-relationships) is then lived-out in society. In some extreme instances-murder, for example:  (Chicago-Police-Killing-“16”). Individuals should not take that which they cannot give.

What about our families? Far too many men; especially Black men, are absent from family units as well as “MIA” when it comes to attending church.  The lack of economic opportunities (JOBS) is a monumental deterrent to a spiritually healthy-oriented family structure. God is the “Designer” of family, and therefore, family units must reflect the divine will of God (The Designer), not the secularist will of the U.S. Supreme Court. When certain spiritual-moral tenets are not taught in the family structure; family structures falls apart. When we have no family structure, institutional church structure deteriorates, and society morally declines (Proverbs 14:34). In the Black Christian community, the emotional-side of the Gospel of Good News (Love, Grace, Mercy, Forgiveness, and the Cross in its Holiness); Blacks have this aspect of Christianity “down-pat”. But, the spiritual understanding and knowledge dimension of the Gospel from a “wisdom-based-preaching” perspective is the missing piece of divine understanding, and what it means to be a faithful Christian. Every Christian should know what God desires, and demands of all his children regardless of skin color (John 8: 31-32). When Blacks attend church under the misguided “emotional” assumption that God is a Divine Santa Claus; it’s a monumental-spiritual-problem. Emotional-style-preaching (whooping) confuses what is real and what is not real in the sight of God Almighty. All Christian churches should work in concert with one another despite “superficial” denominational socio-economic differences (1 John 1:7). First of all, teaching the Word of God (Bible-based Family-oriented Christianity) in order that the community becomes spiritually whole, economically, politically, and socially. Secondly, by lifting-up Jesus as the example for how individuals should live.  Lifting Jesus and being sanctified in the Truth of God is an absolute cure for sin, as well as, all the other socio-economic problems currently plaguing American society. Jesus is the answer. “And I, if I be lifted up from the earth, will draw all men unto me.” (John 12: 32). The answer to the horrible mess America finds itself in is not more church houses, dope houses or houses of ill-repute, but stronger spiritual and moral family units (Family-centered Christianity). American families are in dire need of basic spiritual instruction in family related godly values from institutional churches, as well as, positive-spiritual community development. Pastoral leaders must exemplify in their pastoral “family-spiritual-life-styles” the pathway to godly righteousness, because pastoring is about the spiritual sanctification of the Word of God. “Righteousness exalteth a nation: but sin is a reproach to any people.” (Proverbs 14: 34).  Today in most churches money has become an end in pastoring, not saving souls. “SOME” pastors have already lost it. They have forgotten that the love of money is the root of all evil. A servant is worth his hire, but a Charlton deserves the wrath of God. The word of God should not be prostituted, but instituted in the hearts and minds of God’s people. “For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.” (1 Timothy 6: 10). The admonition in this scripture is simply to use money as a “tool”, and not as a “fool”.  If an individual desires “sound” advice read the writings of King Solomon: “Moreover the profit of the earth is for all: the king himself is served by the field. He that loveth silver shall not be satisfied with silver; nor he that loveth abundance with increase: this is also vanity.” (Ecclesiastes: 5: 9-10). Reference: (Romans 6:23).

Every individual must first begin life’s journey in search of God in order to find himself, the purpose that God has for his life (Romans 8: 28). Without a doubt, it is extremely difficult to be a moral individual in an immoral society, because individuals no longer see and experience God in one another. Far too many Americans have lost their internal moral compass. If an individual does not believe in God, then he will fall for anything, because he does not know what to “choose” to believe. It is all about choices. Unfortunately, too many Christian churches have lost the moral power to speak the truth in love. And, many Christian pastors are reluctant to rebuke sin and ask individuals to repent of their sins, and as a result, they preach the touchy-feely-messages of collection-plate Christianity: “I’m okay, you’re okay—come as you are, stay as you are, but leave your money behind”. By attending church your very presence might help others. Christians should know that by attending church it might ‘just” help someone else in church. Even though, some churches maybe rightly called “Six Flags over Jesus”, because they are so entertainment oriented. Christian friends, listen to the wisest man that ever lived King Solomon who asked God for wisdom in order that he might lead people to God, not rule over them as King “A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favor than silver or gold.” (Proverbs 22:1). Solomon knew that God is the King of Glory, as well as, the KING of kings. Without a doubt, “The rich and poor meet together: the Lord is the maker of them all.” (Proverbs 22:2). Pastoral leaders in conclusion of the whole matter consider this spiritual thought “God through individuals will give you more than you can use in the world” (Peace of Mind: Mark 8: 36). The hope for American society and the world community is Jesus Christ and HIS church “So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” (Romans 10:17). Without a doubt, “Blessed are they that hear the word of God, and keep it.” (Luke 11: 28). Selah!

Bobby E. Mills is an accomplished college professor and public sector administrator. He earned a B.D. degree in Theology from Colgate Rochester Divinity School in Rochester, New York and a Ph.D. degree in Sociology from Syracuse University, New York. He has written and published numerous professional articles concerning the pressing social ills confronting American society.