Hello Gladys: My goal is to start my own business within the coming months. I am currently preparing to leave my job position as CFO for a mid-size company to start an accounting company. Needless to say I am a little bit nervous about getting started. Actually, I am down right scared. But it has been a dream for a long time and I owe it to myself. I think that if I can get over this hurdle of that scary feeling I will do well and all will work out. But, how do I get beyond these feelings? — G.M.
If the scary feeling and nervousness that you are experiencing is related to doubt, that is good because it makes you check and recheck every little detail to avoid failure. However, if you are feeling the fear of success, you might want to deal with that immediately.
As strange as this may seem, there are plenty of people who are afraid that too much success will cause them problems. When that’s the case you can set yourself up to attract conditions to support your failure. It’s like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I will never forget standing in line at a deli and overhearing two guys exchange greetings, “Hey, Joe How’s it goin’?” Joe responded with a foreboding, “Man, things are so great, I’m scared.” That statement says something about the fear of success. This kind of fear can be difficult to identify unless you are completely aware of how you interact with others.
Another example can be seen in the following story.
A woman, whom I will call Alice, had a thriving beauty shop. The clientele consisted of professional women who enjoyed the pampering they got. These women spread the word, and the beauty shop’s business soared.
Each time I spoke with Alice she would say, “Business is too good to be true,” or, “I just don’t know how long this gold rush will last.” Her best friend enforced this attitude by agreeing with her.
Alice’s success allowed her to grow her bank account. One day her friend stopped by the shop to borrow several thousand dollars, explaining that she had an emergency situation and would pay it back over three months. Alice said that she might need the money for supplies for her business. Her friend reminded her that she should not put to much emphasis on business success because success is short-lived. The friend went on to tell Alice that it’s your friends that count and that customers can be fickle and undependable.
Alice gave her friend the money and shortly thereafter she needed the money for a large order for business supplies. Months passed and the friend continued to duck Alice or make up excuses about why she couldn’t pay.
Source: USA Today | Gladys Edmunds