by Danita Whyte (age 11 when written), with Danae (9), Daniqua (7), and Danyelle Whyte (3)
Do Not Have a Bad Attitude
Bad attitudes and bad moods can turn a lot of people off from you; they are not going to want to be your friend or be around you. You will also be more successful if you have a good attitude, and you will benefit a lot more from it.
The only way to be happy and joyful, and not to be moody is to pray to God and ask Him to help you to stay on the right track and to have a consistently good attitude and spirit, no matter what. No matter how dreary or rainy your day may seem, still have a good attitude.
You can always wake up determined that no matter what, you are going to have a good attitude for that day. But, as soon as something goes wrong or doesn’t go your way, then a bad attitude can come out again. That’s why it’s important to continue to pray to God and ask God for His help throughout the day, to control your temper, especially if you know that you have a problem with your attitude.
If something that you have been planning for a long time is cancelled, don’t have a bad attitude just because of that little thing, something else great might happen that day.
If you have a bad attitude because something is troubling you, tell your parents. They can help you and give you good advice.
Here are some things that show you have a good attitude:
1. Obeying Your Parents
2. Loving Your Brothers and Sisters
3. Being Kind to Your Brothers and Sisters
4. Being Nice to Your Friends
5. Helping Out in Your Family
Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching?
– Dennis and Wendy Mannering
Never, ever, ever lie. If you lie once, and then keep on lying, no one is going to believe and trust you with anything anymore.
Once my family had gotten a new car and my dad said not to tear it up or spill any drinks in it. I tore up a piece of the covering inside the car by accident. When my Dad asked about it, I told him that I had done it, and because I was honest and told him that I had done it, he did not chastise me for it, I just got hugs and kisses.
If you do something that your parents, your teacher, or anyone else, told you not to do, don’t lie about it – tell the truth. Even if you do get chastised for it, they will still consider you a truth-teller and will respect you, and you will even feel better.
Lying is an abomination to the Lord, and He hates it. If you lie, and confess it, He will forgive you and forget it. The Bible says in Revelation 21:8: “But the fearful and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all LIARS shall have their part in the lake, which burneth with fire and brimstone.”
If you tell a lie, it’s the devil telling you to lie, and if you yield to that temptation you are falling into the devil’s trap.
If you took some cookies or candy without asking and your mother asks you about it, you might feel like lying and think that she’ll never find out, but that’s not the case. Your mother will find out and you will be in a worse situation than before.
If we really want to be good and do what Jesus says to do, we should not lie. If we don’t lie, we will keep ourselves out of a lot of trouble. If we do lie, we might keep on lying, like David did in the Bible, until someone finds out and then we’re in a big mess.
It’s best to tell the truth any way, because Jesus and God are in Heaven watching over us and they know what we have done. Jesus had to go through a lot of pain for our sins, and Jesus is really sad when we disobey Him. We should try to be like Jesus, for the Bible says, “be sure your sins (that includes lying) will find you out.”
The Truth Will Always Prevail!
The truth is incontrovertible, malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end; there it is. –Winston Churchill
Know What You Want to Do and Be as you Get Older
It’s very important that you know what you want to do and be when you get older. The best time to start thinking about that is now ― when you’re young. To go out into this world when you are grown and not know what you want to do with your life is not very smart.
God put you here for a purpose, and that purpose is to do something that will please Him, and that will lead other people to Him. Pray about your life and your decisions to God, and pray that they will be pleasing in His sight. God might want you to become the next gospel singer, the next motivational lady speaker, the next missionary to China or Africa, or the next great movie star in Hollywood!
God has a purpose for everyone’s life and we need to answer His call, whatever it might be. When you are about nine or ten years old you should start thinking and praying about what God would have you to do with your life. When you are in your teen years your decision should already be made or at least half-way made as to what you want to do with your life.
If you feel God is calling you to be a missionary to Africa, Japan, China, or even to India, start studying their languages, and start praying to God that He would prepare you for whatever hardships you will have to go through. By the way, if you want to be a missionary there will be some hardships to go through, but you won’t think them so hard if you love the Lord Jesus with all of your heart and are doing it for Him.
Finding out what the Lord wants us to do with our lives when we are young, helps us to prepare for what God wants us to do when we get older. This also helps us to find out what classes to take in college. If we listen to our parents’ teachings when we are young, then we won’t have many problems when we’re grown.
Share what you want to do and be with your parents, because they can really help you make the right decision in what you want to be as you get older. Your parents know more about you, your talents, and your abilities, than you will ever know.
You only have one short life to live, so do whatever you can for Jesus Christ. Touch as many lives as you can while you are living, and making a decision right now about knowing what you want to do and be when you get older, can help you a lot and change your life forever.
Our purpose may not be to get a job at Dairy Queen. (But I’m glad for the people who work there, or else we wouldn’t have any good banana splits!) It’s about going all out for God, and doing the job that He has for our lives.
Remember, choose something that you truly love to do, because if you don’t love it and you are only doing it half-heartedly, then you really aren’t doing the purpose that God has for your life, and you also are not loving God with all of your heart, mind, soul, and spirit.
Maybe you haven’t thought about what you want to be when you grow up yet, but it’s never too late to start. So start now and remember to follow God’s plan and will for your life in that decision and stick to it. God has a purpose for your life and He really wants you to fulfill it, and become the virtuous, Christian, loving girl and young lady that He wants you to be.
You Have A Purpose!
For tomorrow belongs to the people who prepare for it today. –African Proverb
Read Good Books a Lot
Reading is also another important tool in helping us learn. Abraham Lincoln, one of the greatest presidents this nation has ever had, taught himself by reading the Bible and other books.
The first Book that we should read and master is the Bible. It is the most important Book in the world, and we can learn a whole lot from just reading it alone.
Only read books that are good and that will help you do good things. Reading bad books like Harry Potter can turn you away from God and make you start believing in witchcraft and all of that kind of stuff.
Reading has a powerful effect on the brain – good or bad. Reading good books on prayer and things like that can bring you closer to God. You don’t have to read books like that all of the time. You can still read fun books like Little Women.
Reading is a good thing to do when you have nothing else to do. Just get one of your favorite books and read it. Reading can take you into a whole different world, and can make you dream and think beyond your wildest imaginations.
Reading is a lot of fun. Read to Understand.
When you reread a classic, you do not see more in the book than you did before; you see more in you than there was before. –Cliff Fadiman
“And further, by these, my son, be admonished: of making many books there is no end; and much study is a weariness of the flesh.” – Ecclesiastes 12:12
Studying is hard and sometimes it is boring, but it’s always worth it when you see a 100% on your test or quiz. The Bible says that studying is a weariness to the flesh, but it didn’t say that studying was evil or was a sin. Studying helps us learn better. If we didn’t study we wouldn’t know anything. Remember when you had to study multiplication tables? If you didn’t study them, then you wouldn’t do well on your test.
Make sure that when you are studying you have peace and quiet. Don’t have your T.V. or music on, or any other things around you that might distract you from your studies.
The best place to sit while studying is at your desk, in your kitchen around your dining table, or at the library. Always have good lighting ― not too bright or too dim. Remember to pray to God that He would give you understanding, and that He would help you as you study.
Have a thirst for knowledge. If you are taking English or Literature classes, and if in the class you don’t finish your workbook in time, try to finish it in your spare time at home because God wants us to be thorough and finish what we start.
“The highest knowledge is the knowledge of God.” –Selected
Stay in School
School is very important. Of course, it may seem hard going to school and studying Monday through Friday, but it will pay off when you are older, and you have a good paying job such as a secretary, or you are an executive at Bank of America, or you’re even the president of your own company.
Don’t play hooky from school. Go to school to learn; don’t go to school just to talk with your friends or to play outside at recess. School is not for that, school is for learning something new.
If math or any other subject is your weakest subject, don’t think that you can’t learn it. Try to learn it, and master it the best you can. Ask God for wisdom and understanding, and He will give it to you.
Try to make A’s and 100’s on all of your tests. When you make an 85% or above, treat yourself to your favorite snack or watching your favorite movie, but remember you’ll never make good grades if you don’t study.
Always pray – pray before every test or quiz or before you do anything at all. But you also have to study so that you will know that you know that you know.
Go to school to learn and come out knowing something new. Here are some good things to do and not to do in school:
1. Sit up straight; don’t slouch.
2. Pay attention to the lesson.Write neatly.
3. Don’t cheat on tests.
4. Don’t pick on other kids.
5. Don’t chew gum in class.
6. Don’t pass notes in class.
7. If your teacher is doing a good job tell him or her so.
8. Go to school with a mind to learn something new.
Also, don’t get too puffed up if you are the smartest kid in class. Remember, you prayed to God and He helped you, so it’s not like you did it all by yourself. Still be humble. If one of your friends asks can she study with you or can you teach her algebra, don’t give her a sassy answer like, “Why, so you can be smarter than me, you know that’s the reason.” Don’t do that. Help her and study with her because you might even learn something new yourself.
“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” – Proverbs 4:7
Stay in school and do your best. And remember to study hard, and pray to God for help because school is too cool to drop out.
School Is Cool!
Lead Other Girls to the Lord
Once you have accepted Christ as your Savior, it is very important that you lead other girls to the Lord. If you have peace and joy from accepting Jesus as your Savior then God wants you to share that same peace and joy with other girls.
A great way to serve the Lord is by witnessing and leading other girls to the Lord. Before you can do that you have to make sure that you are living the way that God wants you to live. If the other girls don’t see Christ’s love in you and you are miserable, mean, and unkind to them, then they are not going to want to accept Christ as their Savior.
If you are too shy or don’t know how to approach them just give them a tract and pray that the Lord will touch their hearts to accept Him. Also, before you go out to witness to other girls, ask God to help you and give you the patience and love to win other girls to Him. Also, ask Him to soften other girls’ hearts to accept Him as their Savior.
Don’t give up if some girls keep on saying that they don’t need Jesus and all of that kind of stuff. Keep on trying patiently and lovingly to win them to Him. Don’t bug them a lot about it because they might bring it up themselves one day.
As a Christian, it is very important that you witness to other girls. When you are with Jesus in Heaven, and you see all of the other girls whom you have won to Him, you will certainly be glad that you did!
“And He said unto them, go ye into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature. He that believeth and is baptized shall be saved; but he that believeth not shall be damned.” — Mark 16:15-16
God’s Speed, Indeed!
The salvation of a single soul is more important than the production or preservation of all the epics and tragedies in the world. –C.S. Lewis
Go to Church
Church should be the best place to you on earth. You should love going to church every Sunday and on Wednesday nights (if your church has Wednesday night services). Don’t wish you could have stayed home and played sick. No, instead wear your best Sunday dress, put on your best sunny smile, and go to church to worship God.
Do not go to church just because your parents said to go, but rather go to church because you love God and you want to worship Him and do His will. Church is not a time for playing and talking with friends but a time to worship God and reverence Him and His Son, Jesus Christ. It’s a time for you to pray to God and to praise Him for everything that He has done for you. Worship God in His House.
Some go to church to see and be seen, Some go there to say they have been, Some go there to sleep and nod, But few go there to worship God. –Selected
Pray and Read the Bible Daily
Praying and reading the Bible is very important once you have become a Christian. May I encourage you to pray one time in the morning before you start your day, one time at night before you go to sleep and several times throughout the day as the Lord may lead you.
Reading the Bible should be fun. Read at least three chapters or more a day. You can do it different ways: read all three in the morning; all three at night; or one in the morning, one in the afternoon, and one at night.
Memorizing verses out of the Bible is important also. Don’t just read it straight through and not do what it says. The Bible says: “But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves” (James 3:16). Don’t just read three chapters straight through and then get right up and not do what it says and not remember anything you just read.
Memorize one verse a week or at least two verses a month, and obey them because really the Bible is just God telling you what you need to do. If you read your Bible you will get more understanding about life and how you are supposed to behave. The Bible is your road map of life, and it’s the best Book in the world.
It is important to pray because your life will go a lot smoother. Also, pray because God said not to worry about anything but to give everything over to Him in prayer.
If you have any problems in your life or you are not sure about something, pray to God about it and He will give you the answers that you need. It may not come right away, but it will come when God is ready.
Remember, God never sleeps. He is always watching over you, He will comfort you in your time of need, and He will always answer your prayers no matter how long it may seem.
Prayer is very important. Pray a sincere prayer from your heart and ask God to forgive you of all of your sins and to give you strength for that day. Pray to Him also about your needs and wants.
Prayer is when you talk to God; meditation is when you listen to God. – Diana Robinson
Become a True Christian
God is a very loving, forgiving, and merciful God, and He wants every single person to accept Him as their Savior and come and live with Him in Heaven, forever when they die. But, sadly, a lot of people won’t because they don’t accept Jesus Christ, God’s Son, into their hearts and lives.
Jesus Christ came down to earth in the form of a man and died on the cross for your sins and mine, He was buried in the grave, and then He rose three days later, so that we could have salvation full and free. Jesus Christ loved us so much that even when many people didn’t believe on Him, He still went through all the pain and suffering for them, and for us.
Jesus doesn’t want anyone to go to Hell and be tortured there forever and ever. He loves everyone, and wants everyone to live with Him in Paradise. He wants you to receive Him as your Savior so that you can have everlasting life and live with Him in Paradise as well.
You don’t have to keep on searching and looking for happiness on earth; only Jesus can make you happy, and give you real peace. Jesus can fill your heart with His love and mercy. He can forgive you no matter what you have done and no matter what is going on in your life. He will forgive you always. Jesus is very loving and merciful, and that’s why He died for you on the cross of Calvary.
Jesus is looking down at you from Heaven, with His hands wide open, wanting you to come to Him and open up your heart and receive Him as the Lord of your life. But He can’t wait forever because soon it’ll be too late and He’s coming back one day to gather up all of His faithful children and bring them up with Him into Heaven, where they can live in peace and security forever and ever. Jesus really, really, really wants you to be His precious child so that you can experience His forgiveness and live with Him forever in Heaven.
Jesus Christ, God’s Holy and only Son, did a lot just for you and me because He loves us more than we or anyone else could ever love us, and He cares for us. Please accept Him right now, today.
1. Believe that God loves you more than anyone could ever love you. “For God so loved the world, that He gave His Only Begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish but have everlasting life” (John 3:16).
2. Accept the fact that you have sinned and broken God’s law.
3. Believe that because of your sins, you are on the road to Hell, and that you cannot do anything to save yourself.
4. Believe that Jesus Christ died on the cross for your sins, was buried, and rose again.
If you believe the four things above, please pray this prayer:
Dear Lord, I realize that I am a sinner. Please, please forgive me of all of my sins. I now believe with all of my heart that Jesus Christ was crucified, was buried, and rose again. Please come into my heart and save my soul and change my life. Help me to become a virtuous girl and do Your will. Amen.
Now you can have real joy and peace through Christ, start a fresh and anew and do His will.
See ya’ in Heaven!
The knowledge of sin is the beginning of salvation.
– Latin Proverb
I am very happy and proud to share with you something that was written by my four youngest daughters: Danita (the main author), Danae’, Daniqua, and Danyelle. I am happy and proud because I know, even though they are not perfect children, they strive to live by the virtuous principles that they write about.
If you want something written by young girls for young girls, that would help them strive to live the good life and also be more of a blessing to you as a parent, then I highly recommend the content below for you and them.
May the Lord bless you.
— Daniel Whyte III, the authors’ father
*Special Note: I know that it will be hard to believe, but my wife, Meriqua, and I did not have anything to do with this writing. Our four youngest daughters wrote it all by themselves. All we did was proofread it after it was written. We are just as surprised at how good it is, as you will be.
I was eight years old, going on nine, when I started to write this. I wrote it so that it could help a lot of girls become virtuous girls and grow up to be virtuous ladies.
You can become a virtuous girl at a young age. I decided to start being a virtuous girl one day when I had done something wrong and I got punished for it. After I got punished, I had a bad attitude about it and I snapped at my father when he had asked me to do something. I was punished again.
Afterwards, I was thinking about what I had done, and I decided that it was no use to keep on doing wrong and having a bad attitude. I just might as well change it, and I did. So, I decided to write this, and I do hope that it will help a lot of girls, just like me, to become virtuous girls and to grow up to be virtuous ladies.
— Danita Evangeline White
Who Can Find a Virtuous Girl?
Who can find a virtuous girl?
For her price is far above sugar and spice and all that is nice.
The heart of her parents doeth safely trust in her because she has never lied to them.
She will be obedient and not disobedient all the days of her life.
She seeketh thread and a needle and learns to sew, and she learns to cook and bake as well.
She loves to do things for her family, and helps her brothers and sisters.
She shares her cinnamon rolls with her little sister.
She gets her allowance and spends it wisely, and makes sure she gives some to the Lord.
She goes exercising with her family, and strengthens her body.
She does her best in school, and always finishes her homework before she goes to bed.
She goes with her family, and helps the poor and needy.
She is not afraid of the snow because she has learned how to make warm clothes.
She also makes herself beautiful clothes; her clothing is good and soft.
She welcomes her father home when he comes in from work.
She makes fine clothes and gives it to the poor and homeless.
Happiness and praise are her clothing, and she shall rejoice in time to come.
She opens her mouth with wise things to say, and in her tongue is a kind word.
She looks beautiful no matter what, and tries not to do anything bad.
Her parents rise and praise her, and her brothers and sisters love her.
If she gets married, her daughters will be virtuous too, and she will excel in all she does.
Foolishness is bad, and beauty is vain, but a girl that loves the Lord she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Adapted from Proverbs 31