In today’s social media-obsessed culture, the old adage “comparison is the thief of joy” has never been truer — especially, it seems, for moms.
Scrolling through Instagram photos of Pinterest-worthy projects, HGTV homes, and perfectly dressed children can make even the most confident mother question her abilities.
Studies show that social media use among most new mothers has become ubiquitous — and unsurprisingly, mothers who are more frequent visitors to Facebook report higher levels of parenting stress.
With everyone presenting the heavily-filtered “Facebook version” of themselves, mothers are bombarded with perfectionism at every turn. It doesn’t take long for comparison to creep in, creating a messy environment of dissatisfaction and discontentment.
In a culture that idolizes perfection, how can mothers show themselves grace and fight the pressure to compare themselves to others?
Ruth Schwenk, who’s an author, founder of The Better Mom blog, and mother of four children, told The Christian Post that it all begins with a proper understanding of identity.
“It comes down to where we find our worth,” she said. “My identity, first of all, isn’t in motherhood, it’s in that I’m a child of Christ. As a mom, I need to remember that my value doesn’t come from what I do or don’t do, but from the fact that I’m a daughter of God and created in His image.”
It’s important to understand that God “made us the mom of our child for a reason,” Schwenk stressed, adding: “I’m the perfect mom for my child, and you’re the perfect mom for your child. God doesn’t make mistakes when He gives us the children we have.”
Viewing other mothers as competition, she said, only isolates us from what could be a life-giving, mutually beneficial friendship.
“The things you do are great for you and your family, and I can learn from that,” she said. “This isn’t a competition. There are things I’ll do in my life that will look different than you, but that doesn’t mean that there aren’t some things from your life that would actually be really great to implement into my motherhood.”
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SOURCE: Christian Post, Leah MarieAnn Klett