Shellie R. Warren: 4 Ways Porn Will Ruin Your Sex Life

A couple of years ago, Huffington Post published an article with this title: “5 Reasons Why Watching Porn Together Can Be Good For Your Relationship.” Their reasons?

1. It is a shared experience.

2. It’s an easy way to learn about your partner’s fantasies.

3. It can speed up foreplay.

4. It shatters the myth that you can (and should) only be attracted to your mate.

5. It may lessen the need to act out on sexual desires outside of your relationship.

Okay, so in other words, porn can make you lazy, selfish, a poor communicator, and provide a Band-Aid on issues that may be going on within the relationship. Yeah, I actually can get with all of that. Only, how is that helping your relationship? Or your sex life for that matter?

As a marriage life coach, I’ve never met one couple where porn has helped the relationship. Only hurt. Here’s why (and how):

1) Porn totally bucks the purpose of sex.

Recently, I was having lunch with a male friend who admits that he watches porn more than he would like. He’s in his late 30s and a church goer. So, it was … something when I asked him what he thought the purpose of sex was. He shrugged and said “procreation?” as if it was a question more than a statement. We really have to do better.

Procreation is a purpose for sex, yes (Genesis 1:26-28Malachi 2:15); however, oneness is the first and main one (Genesis 2:24-25). And oneness does not only involve our bodies, but our minds and spirits too.

Only two committed people — mind, body and spirit — should be engaging in sex.

Porn makes that super-challenging at best.

2) Porn will infect your spirit.

Over the years, I have shared one of my favorite verses as it appears in the Message translation. It starts out like this: “Sex is as much a spiritual mystery as it is a physical fact” (I Corinthians 6:16).

Powerful!

If sex was only about getting a physical release, perhaps (PERHAPS) porn wouldn’t be such a big deal. But sex is so much more than that.

Being that God is Spirit, God made sex, and the Bible tells us that any form of lust is not God’s cup of tea (to say the least — I John 2:16), we have to keep in mind that sex is a spiritual act, and while orgasms are wonderful benefits, they should not be the sole agenda. Establishing a spiritual connection is what’s extremely important.

Porn is lust-based. It couldn’t care less about your spirit. Well, other than desiring to infect it rather than positively affect it.

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Source: Christian Post