First Major Survey of Pastors’ Wives Reveals Most Have Positive View of the Ministry, Many Feel They Live in a Fishbowl

Dorena Williamson, wife of Pastor Chris Williamson of Strong Tower Bible Church in Nashville, Tenn., speaks at the Religion News Association meeting in Nashville, Tenn., on Sept. 9, 2017. (RNS photo by Adelle M. Banks)
Dorena Williamson, wife of Pastor Chris Williamson of Strong Tower Bible Church in Nashville, Tenn., speaks at the Religion News Association meeting in Nashville, Tenn., on Sept. 9, 2017. (RNS photo by Adelle M. Banks)

The vast majority of U.S. Protestant pastors’ spouses say ministry has had a positive effect on their families but many report being isolated and under financial stress.

A new LifeWay Research survey, released Tuesday (Sept. 12), finds that most spouses are directly involved in the work of their churches, with 1 in 5 holding a paid position and two-thirds serving in unpaid capacities.

“Spouses have an important role in the church, even if it’s not an official role,” said Scott McConnell, executive director of the Nashville-based evangelical research firm. “The variety of experiences kind of reminds us just not to tuck them into a single mold.”

The findings, discussed at the annual meeting of the Religion News Association days before their official release, present a picture of the varied life of the spouses behind the person in the pulpit. Some help with the church’s music or children’s ministries; some serve as secretaries or co-pastors; and others work outside of the church but also give a listening ear to troubled members.

While 85 percent of respondents said their church takes “good care of us,” 6 in 10 agreed that their family’s financial needs are not met by the salary received from their church.

On a panel at the RNA meeting, Lisa Rhea spoke as the wife of a bivocational pastor of a Nashville-area Episcopal church and her expectation that pastors’ salaries tend to be small.

“They’re not NFL football players,” said Rhea, whose husband, the Rev. Robert Rhea, is vicar of All Saints’ Episcopal Church in Smyrna, Tenn., as well as an emergency room physician.

More than two-thirds of respondents said they are concerned about the level of retirement benefits they will have to live on when they are older.

Spouses also noted stressors in a life of ministry. For example, 79 percent said their congregation expects their family to be “a model family.” Almost half said their family lives in a “fishbowl.” And 69 percent said there are “very few people” in whom they can confide about “the really important matters in my life.”

Dorena Williamson, wife of the senior pastor of a Strong Tower Bible Church in Nashville and daughter of parents in full-time ministry, said during the RNA panel: “My mother has been probably my chief confidante.”

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SOURCE: Adelle M. Banks 
Religion News Service