The Bible describes the intoxicating power of passion associated with lust and adultery. Misdirected passion deceives, misleads, and influences … we walk in darkness, stumbling … unable to see what we stumble over. This description explains why so many caught in sexual sin describe a sense of confusion and a disconnect from God.
Adultery moves us from the altar to the courtroom — transforming a couple, once deeply in love, into bitter enemies. Hopes and dreams for the birth of a child, now twisted, become a nightmare for innocent children.
Adultery is selfishness at its core.
How sad that sexual appetites often devour our own children, as well as ourselves.
Proverbs 9:17-18 describes adultery, “Stolen water is sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant. But he does not know that the dead are there, that her guests are in the depths of hell.”
Adultery hardens the heart toward spouses … those who were once loved and cherished now feel insignificant and discarded. Children often feel to blame for not being good enough … trying hard enough.
God help our selfish hearts! It would seem, that for loving parents, the thought of this horror would bring sexual sin to a sobering halt.
Sexual sins ultimate goal is to destroy the marriage: “Sin when it is fully grown brings forth death” (James 1:15).
Often, the only way out of adulterous and destructive relationships is to do what is right regardless of feelings … to experience the pain of discipline rather than the pain of regret. Feelings can be unstable and deceptive, but obedience to scriptural truths can be trusted.
The pain of adultery can make us bitter, or it can make us better — ultimately, it’s our choice.
God can restore if genuine repentance and forgiveness takes place.
True repentance is unconditional and takes full responsibility for wrongs done. A truly repent person is desperate to be forgiven … to focus on what they have done rather than placing blame or responsibility on others. Don’t misunderstand, both spouses have work to do, but this comes later.
Two areas often prevent reconciliation:
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SOURCE: The Christian Post
Shane Idleman is the founder and lead pastor of Westside Christian Fellowship in Lancaster, California, just North of Los Angeles. Shane’s sermons, articles, books, and radio program can all be found at shaneidleman.com or wcfav.org. Follow him on Facebook at: facebook.com/confusedchurch.